I know exactly what you mean! It is like you are no longer new to a community
have you thought about maybe taking a week or two off from here? maybe seeing if you can find some pleasure in the real world? maybe after all of your helping others, it is really taking a toll on you that you arent seeing… maybe time away might be a good thing…
Well, I dont like the feeling of being new to anything, it makes me anxious, I like feeling like I belong. Its just once I get use to people, I dont know who they think I am, but I need to act “normal” and cant show any weaknesses or something like that.
so be yourself hun… no one here is going to judge you for you being yourself.. and if they do.. flag them… no one has the right to judge anyone..
Yes, I know what you mean. But what I am saying is that when you are knew there is a certain anonymity that you maintain but when you aren’t you have created a personality for yourself.
Exactly!
Well I cant really be myself, seeing as I dont know who I am. I have my morals set in stone, but my personality? Im still trying to figure that out, and figure out how im suppose to be my own strong person.
I completey understand. I have been thinking about that too. Wondering if people answer my questions based on who they think I am or who I actually am.
Exactly. Are they just saying something based on what they think Im like or is that advice theyd give me if they had just met me. I unfortunately do that with my family. I know what Id say to them if they were my friends or someone I didnt know, but I cant tell them anything b/c theyre my family and they judge everything I say and do and mock me for it. How am I suppose to drop family like you would a bad friend?
Akhale51 wrote:
I completey understand. I have been thinking about that too. Wondering if people answer my questions based on who they think I am or who I actually am.
you pose a puzzling question here. And I think the true answer to it
is we don’t know. I’m an electrical engineer and I can never say I don’t know.
But here it is I’m saying “I don’t know”.
OK, I am glad you and I are on the same wave length. But to be quite frank, I don’t know how you would drop family like you would a bad friend.
It doesn’t seem possible. Does it?
No, it doesnt. And they are my rut.
That might be the reason behind why I have been so depressed now that you mention it
If somehow we could just walk away and not have to deal with them or feel bad for leaving.. wed feel better. But we cant. B/c no matter what we do, theyre our family. They love us. Its that exact tie that brings us down.
Well, my rut unfortunately for me doesnt end there. Its just the biggest part. maybe i should try and take a break from the site, theres just so much woe here. But that didnt work to well the last time I tried to leave.
This site is a black hole, whether or not we want to admit it.
I told you someone squashed my good mood today. First my mom, then you know who, and since then I have felt very alone again.
I am sorry. I am always here for you. You know that.
I know that. But like youve said, its nice to actually have someone here in person. Solitude is a real kick in the butt.
Yes, it is. I spend most my time alone, so I know. The exception is when I go to hockey or counseling.
And I believe you, yourself once said:
Its better to have a few close people, who truely care about you, than lots of people notice your gone and not care so much. Were like your family on here. And us plus your real family is a lot of love!
maybe the two of you akhale and kemmy
could get together on a live MSN Web chat using web cams.
that would be more personal.
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spiratec9 wrote:
maybe the two of you akhale and kemmy
could get together on a live MSN Web chat using web cams.
that would be more personal.
…….
Not even wanted anymore.
Yea, I said that and I believe its all true. But my family doesnt like helping when someone is feeling blue. They ignore it and wait it goes away.
you two radiate tons of Love on this site. Good on both of you.
I’ve seen people come back on this site and thank people and tell them
that if it wasn’t for them they wouldn’t be here.
Hey kemmy, My family is the same way, that is why I came here. We are becoming your friends, people you can trust with information. We can provide more help then if you feel anonomus. I will always be here to help you and anybody. You can let off steam to people you can get personal answers from without being worried or scared. I hope you stay because you help so much and we can talk pretty easily now. You mean alot to me on this site, without you, it wouldn’t be the same.
hockeymaniac500 wrote:
Hey kemmy, My family is the same way, that is why I came here. We are becoming your friends, people you can trust with information. We can provide more help then if you feel anonomus. I will always be here to help you and anybody. You can let off steam to people you can get personal answers from without being worried or scared. I hope you stay because you help so much and we can talk pretty easily now. You mean alot to me on this site, without you, it wouldn’t be the same.
i second that.
spiratec9 wrote:
hockeymaniac500 wrote:
Hey kemmy, My family is the same way, that is why I came here. We are becoming your friends, people you can trust with information. We can provide more help then if you feel anonomus. I will always be here to help you and anybody. You can let off steam to people you can get personal answers from without being worried or scared. I hope you stay because you help so much and we can talk pretty easily now. You mean alot to me on this site, without you, it wouldn’t be the same.
i second that.
I third that
lol, somebody couldn’t fix the way I spelled anonymous? Just kidding, but really kemmy, I really hope you decide to stay. Oh, and be right back, need to take a shower.
kemmy you are a fine jewel. Your parents don’t necessarily see your jewel.
Because they live with you all the time. We see it. It sparkles.
spiratec9 wrote:
kemmy you are a fine jewel. Your parents don’t necessarily see your jewel.Because they live with you all the time. We see it. It sparkles.
ditto
and you too akhale !!!!!!!!!!!
Akhale51 wrote:
I completey understand. I have been thinking about that too. Wondering if people answer my questions based on who they think I am or who I actually am.
http://help.com/post/137010-just-wond…
i know exactly what you mean.
There will be a day where your family will look forward to hearing what you have to say about things. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Thanks all you guys. Its nice to know Im able to help somebody.
Like I said, I doubt leaving would work as this site is so addicting, so I dont think you have much to worry about there. Plus, some people are actually friends. I know Id be upset if they left.
You are able to help many, Kemmy!
Shie
spiratec9