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is it okay to spoil my boyfriend’s little brother?

my boyfriend is 19, i’m 18, and he has a 15 year old brother.

i absolutely adore his little brother, and he just loves me too. however, they are kind of that kind of family where they are tough on the younger one, out of love, i guess. i don’t know, i’ve never had a younger sibling before.

anyway, if i did, i would be spoiling the little thing as often as possible if i did have one…

so, my question is: is it okay to get his little brother something while i’m out, just something small? like, if i was to surprise my boyfriend with cupcakes, would it be okay to get one that’s special just for his little brother too?

i don’t know…
thanks!

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pleeaasee help me out here.

my boyfriend is 19, i’m 18, and he has a 15 year old brother.

i absolutely adore his little brother, and he just loves me too. however, they are kind of that kind of family where they are tough on the younger one, out of love, i guess. i don’t know, i’ve never had a younger sibling before.

anyway, if i did, i would be spoiling the little thing as often as possible if i did have one…

so, my question is: is it okay to get his little brother something while i’m out, just something small? like, if i was to surprise my boyfriend with cupcakes, would it be okay to get one that’s special just for his little brother too?

i don’t know…
thanks!

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Love, Family, Little Brother, Sibling, question, boyfriend, Small, Special, Kind, Cupcake" 1 year, 2 months ago.

nothx offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Sure it is. :)
That’s brownie points with the sibling, a great idea. :D

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Science Girl offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Sure!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

lol… first if you had a little sibling don’t be so quick to say you wouldn’t be hard on them. Younger siblings can cling so much out of love and hero worship and at time just plain boredom they can be very frustrating. But in regard to your question no, of course not. That would be very sweet. Be mindful of your boyfriends reaction however. Depending on how mature the 15 year old is… there is not alot of age gap between the two, you boyfriend might develop feelings of jealousy. I know it does not seem to make sense, but then you’ve never had a younger sibling remember. :) Siblings do alot of things that don’t make sense.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

hmmm just to make sure - when I said “no, of course not”… I meant it is OK to spoil the younger brother … sorry about the confusion.
~Richard

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cattail offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Newark, NJ, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

I think that’s a very sweet gesture!! :)

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anothernikki offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (55 minutes after post)

I don’t see why not, as long as you don’t get carried away. And if you do buy gifts, just double check with his parents that it’s ok to give thme to him.

Although of the little brother is 15 years old, I’d refrain from calling him “the little thing” around him. lol.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

But you must call him “Swamp thing” then go “nah nah nah, you make my heart sing, nah nah nah” (is that out of the 15 year old cartoon watching time frame?)

I did the same thing, my ex girlfriend had a younger sister, long story short, I bought her a really small drum set, taught her how to play it (with extreem difficulty).. I got so many brownie points..

…a few weeks later, it drove my ex, her mother, sister and surrounding neighbours insane… not so fun…

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BD | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 hours, 29 minutes after post)

Sure its ok, but there is a limitation to how much you can adore him or else your boyfriend may get jealous!

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (8 months after post)

I think that’s a lovely idea.
Not only with your boyfriend think it’s a really nice gesture u’ll get loads of brownie points from his parents if you get him something for his bedroom make an excuse up say it’s for the great exam result you got last week or whatever.lol

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