Love help: I need help….i am wite and the boy i love is black…we don’t date and he got a gf…wht shuld i do? - Help.com

I don’t know how much the skin color matters, but if he has a girlfriend it makes all a lot harder. Does he know that you love him?

kaitlyn.sherma wrote:
Yea. He said he love me 2. but……he gotta gf n she pregnant by him. that the only reason he with her……

Danger. Not a good situation for you. If he will leave her and with a baby too, then don’t you think he will drop you like a hot potato when the times come?

How can you love someone that will leave his own child?

But if he will leave her…..the mother of his child……..what do you think?

Why?

What is love?

If he is with a girl, then respect that.

Nothing. You should do nothing. You don’t love him–you don’t know him well enough to love him. You are merely attracted to him. And he has a girlfriend–and a CHILD? Whoa, kiddo, get the hell out of there. You do not belong there. You are a trouble-maker and a trouble-seeker. Get some counseling to explore why you are so drawn to hurting yourself and others.

And if you say you’re “in love” one more time, I’m going to throw up on my keyboard. Being “in love” in real, but it is something that takes long and intimate knowledge of a person. You get get horny from across the room, but “in love” is a state the evolves and grows with good, positive, healthy interactions. And being “in love” is no excuse for poor judgment and bad behavior.

That all sounds good, but it doesn’t work that way exactly.

My guess is that you have known him less than a year.

I could NOT agree with theresape more.

Yes, it does work that way. People have brains and will power. They don’t need to be slaves to the tinglings of their genitals. They can make good, responsible decisions. I’m not just talking about morals, either–I am also talking about making decisions that will lead to happiness and a worthwhile life. So many people create their own misery and then they use “love” as the excuse. They see themselves as helpless puppets, when they are really just making bad choices. Love is good; what this poster is talking about is bad. Work to the good.

How is what you’re feeling bad?!!! Didn’t you read anything that anyone wrote above? It’s like you’re walking into a buzz saw face first and with your eyes open.

u should forget about that person come on he got a girl pregnant he will prabably do that to u and if he leaves his gf then once e finds some thing better he will most likely leave u

Anonymous, of course I’ve been in situations like that. Everyone has. Sometimes I’ve made bad choices, sometimes I’ve made good choices. Guess what: The bad choices made my life worse, and the good choices made my life better. I am trying to teach our little nymphet here to make choices that will make her life better. She came here for advice, I assume, not to be coddled. And I am advising her to make choices that will make her life better.

Maybe you do really love him….
But think about two things. Is this what you want for your life? Babies mamas and dads in prision, your parents diapproving, and I’m sure that doesn’t even scratch the surface.
And if you do truely love him like you say you do realize the situation he is in and walk away. Let him have a shot a normal family. Doesnt sound like he’s had much of that.

kaitlyn.sherma wrote:
Then what the hell am i suppose 2 do???

We’ve all TOLD you what you’re supposed to do. Why keep asking?

Back off. This young man’s life is complicated enough already, and he’s ruined at least two others. Don’t add to his complications, and don’t hand him a third life to ruin. Do what is good for him, good for his pregnant girlfriend, good for his unborn child, and good for you and your life. You have a brain. Anon tells you to follow your “heart,” but the organ she is referring to is actually considerable lower in the body. You don’t have to think with your genitals. Think with your mind and your heart and your head. Don’t be a victim.

Now, you’ve asked for advice and you’ve gotten it. Whether you follow it is up to you. But stop playing victim. And don’t pretend that this is romantic and exciting. It’s not romantic and exciting; it’s disgusting. Realize that you CAN make responsible choices, and that if you make IRresponsible ones, you will be completely accountable for all the hurt that comes to you and the people around you from here on in. And the hurt will be mighty. This is a fork in your road. Turn right, or turn wrong.

Good luck.

I really want to know how your spelling and grammar went from horrendous to good? thats how we found out another user was a fake, care to explain your self?