Love help: My girlfriend, who means the world to me, is having a really hard time at home. - Help.com

Dealing with a girlfriends parents can be truly difficult. You have to handle this delicately. Her old man seems like the type that has really high expectations or may feel like a failure himself and doesn’t want his daughter to make the same mistakes, or he’s just taking it out on her. Continue to support her and make her feel beautiful, special, and unique. Tell her that people often love to see you fail but that doesn’t mean stop trying. I’m sure her dad just want’s whats best for her even if he doesn’t know the best way to be a dad. If you stay there for her and the family at some point you will be fully accepted. If he feels that your don’t respect him, which may be the truth , he will make you attempts at a happy healthy relationship even harder. Worst off he could take it out on her. It would give him one more thing to get on her about. The best revenge is to live well. Encourage her to make goals and stick to them. Tell her to aim for the heavens, even if she misses she will land among the stars. Kind of cheesy but cheesy is good sometimes if it makes her smile and takes her mind of the things at home.
When you go to college the long distance thing will be a bi**h. Call her support her. Regardless of what happens remember that a relationship is only healthy if both parties are getting something good out of it. Good luck.

the best thing in the world your girlfriend has is you. Good on you. You should
buy a single red rose, hold it with two hands, and give it to her.
And saying nothing.is she asks you why did you give the red rose to her.
Say nothing. For as long as you can. Then say if you need to “why do you think I give it to you?” .

just love her. really. she needs to be loved.

Hey i think its real nice of you that you care and worry for her , even about her future.
Look after her well and make sure your there for her when she needs to cry or someone to talk to.

My stepdaughter’s biological father is a real jerk. He took the divorce out on his daughter by not calling her, or writing to her, or emailing her, or acknowledging her on her birthday. He withheld his approval and affection from her, and she suffered from it immensely. Now she is beginning to realize that it wasn’t her fault, that it was about him and his twisted ways. There are two dangers here: one, that your girlfriend may be looking for a “father figure” to marry, and second, that she will take out her “father frustrations” on any future husband. Believe me, it happens! You can “be there” for her right now, but you cannot assure her a good and happy life. You cannot “make someone else happy.” We all must make our own selves happy. Happiness must always come from within. You can help, but the other person must actually make it happen. I’m just telling you that you cannot do it all. When she goes to a different college, that may be the beginning of the end of your relationship, and you need to be prepared for that. Vice versa, so does she. Goodness, there are so many “jerk” fathers in this world . . . you wonder how many of them actually know they are jerks in their daughters’ eyes?

The most helpful thing you can do, since she seems to be in denial, is tell her in subtle ways how very special she really is. Perhaps she will soon see it herself, and in realizing it, gain the courage to stand up to her father. Gad! I sound like a heartfelt something or other.