Love help: hello, i love a girl but she does not care about me, and she is not interested to have a relationship with me. - Help.com

I’m in the same situation, I don’t see any way out.

you just got to move on

I was just writing on another post about this same thing. I realize it is very difficult to see a way out once you have fallen for someone. But I also think you have to take care of yourself and figure that there are many people to meet and many places to see outside of that one individual. Anonymous put it simply “you just got to move on.” I would suggest you don’t subject yourself to the pain any longer. Avoid places you might run into her, (don’t try to see her), don’t contact her if you don’t have to, try not to listen to music that reminds you of her or look at her pictures and reminders - little things until you feel you feel she is truly out of your mind romantically for the most part. Distract yourself and keep yourself involved in other activities. Sure you will still think about her, but less so if something else is preoccupying your mind. Explore your interests, take a class on something you have always wanted to know more about, or improve your knowledge of. Travel and expand your horizons. You may surprise yourself and end up meeting someone with similar interests in the process. It takes some time to let go, but once you let go its like being given your freedom … breathing again. Keep moving forward toward positive goals in your life and try not to look back on her. Really there is so much out there to learn and discover and there are so many people to meet. You will know when you are ready to let go because it becomes tiring or emotionally draining trying to hold on to someone who can’t return our feelings. Leave her behind you because you want to find someone who can reciprocate and give you the kind of love you also have in your heart to give.

Another poster is going through something similar…
http://help.com/post/150561-my-proble…

Ames I tried most of the things you’re advising and nothing worked though I’m not really in exactly the same situation as the poster, I just guess it hurts the same but for me it’s after relationship. And another difference is that in my case it’s a guy.

I went through it myself and my friends honestly could not console me for the longest time. So I know what you are saying as well. Its a difficult thing. A person may have to be ready to let go or want to change I suppose. It took me a while to realize that. I just grew tired of holding out hope and feeling low about my unrequited love for one individual I guess. Everyone is different in how they handle a situation. As always I am just running through my mind what worked for me and hoping maybe it will help someone else out there. All I can say in that case is I am sorry you are hurting and I hope you find there are brighter days ahead with or without someone else in the picture. Sometimes we need to find it or experience it for ourselves. Best :)

Thank you for the kind wishes, I really appreciate it.

Sure thing! :)

oliveoil,

I am 17 yrs old and loved a girl in my school, she was so cute, innocent, was my best friend but when she got to know about me from someone else she is talking with me no more. sometimes she wished me one occasions but that was just the formality i think so… i have read your thoughts and will apply by tomorrow. Life has no end, we have to live max. 100 years then why we should waste our precious life just after someone. There would be some girl with same condition as me and she would be my lucky charm. Thanks again for giving me a confidence. I think i am becoming Bold like i was before years.

With Love,
Herit Shah

hmm