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By the sound of things, you still seem attatched to Red or Red is attatched to you and wants to make you regret breaking up. Does that help?

I think red is purposely telling you these things to make you mad.
He’s basically saying, “oooh I moved on, let’s see if you can!”
In fact, I don’t think he’s moved on at all.

I just read J’s post, and yeah, it sounds like he’s trying to make you feel bad about your breakup.

Why don’t you stop hanging around Red so much and hang out with Green more?

Ah - this is totally natural. The only thing that helps you get over jealousy is time and perspective. As more months pass and also as you get closer to Green (ideally) you will feel less and less of the jealous reaction to hearing about Red. As it is, you one month is a short time to be completely over a close relationship with someone, no matter how it ended and who ended it.

This sounds pretty healthy. In time, Red will probably stop being quite so loquacious about his latest attraction. I don’t agree with the others that he is necessarily doing this to hurt you.

alex.leed is exactly right, time is the best resolution to jealousy. Trust me, I’ve had break-up jealousy, it’s a b!tch. But time gets rid of it very well and eventually you just forget the anger and jealousy. Hopefully Red will shut up about who he likes by then because I do also believe he is just doing that to irritate you.

This is one of the reasons why it is a disadvantage when you are still friends a short while after a break up. Of course it is nice to be friends with an ex, but in order to heal, there should be a limitation. But the feeling is very natural. You had a past that’s still binding you together no matter how both of you put it.

Right now, both of you still care for each other because attraction or love does not easily fade away. But what is good is you have both moved on. If he wants to brag about the new girl, let him or better yet if you are hurt or jealous with it, avoid getting into a conversation that would lead about him and his new girl.

You do not need to brag about your new guy. Secured people do not need to. :)