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goodluck

let your personality out.
you want guys to like you based on your personality.

Just be yourself, and dont be afraid.

Original Poster wrote:
I’m worried that nothing will ever happen for me, because year after year it hasn’t.

Past outcomes do not effect future ones. Oh, the things I learned gambling….

What wait for it to happen. Unless your very old fashioned be proactive, spot a guy you like and say, “Hi”

Yes, yes, me too!! Exactly like you!!! If you figure anything out, let me know!

i agree with belief, you should try talking to a guy you like n seein if theres a chance for the both of you. some people find gettin dates easy n others dont but that doesnt mean you never will get one. theres plenty of oppertunities out there just waitin for you. i hope you find someone good luck!

Don’t be sorry !!! Personality attracts more then looks , most people are average looking . Try to be more approachable . “SMILE”

Deal, simonthesorcerer… you tell me if you figure out anything too :)

I try to be approachable… it’s like i’m missing something. Lke there is some secret code that gets guys to ask you out and i just missed the memo.

well i never got told about any secret code but i hav been told that if you believe you can get any guy you want you usually will because havin a positive mind can attract good people to you. something to do with auras i dont fully understand it but its what everyone tells me

Anonymous wrote:
Deal, simonthesorcerer… you tell me if you figure out anything too :)

I try to be approachable… it’s like i’m missing something. Lke there is some secret code that gets guys to ask you out and i just missed the memo.

There is. But as a guy I’m not allow to sait. MAybe a gay guy could tell you they left the team anyway.

your not doing anything wrong its just guys jus arnt ready for u yet jus enter adulthood goodluck at finding love

also, as some of those other girls get older, guys will start looking at them as damaged goods and you will look vary pure, guys want certin girls to fool around with when there young, and others to settle down with and have families. your probably better off in your catigory

sucks yes, unfair, yes, true yes. I didn’t say there weren’t guys out there that were the same way. And just be yourself and the right type of guy will be attraked to you is I guess a little nicer way to say it.

Some GUY is feeling just like you do. Be approachable. But don’t sweat it, as guys at this stage of their lives are not the most focused or reliable. Secret: talk to a guy and get him to talk about himself! WE have huge, but fragile, egos. Always remember that. If a guy thinks he’s gonna get turned down, he won’t call! It’s OK to talk to guys! Just don’t waste time on obvious jerks.

No, not that. It’s that we guys look for OVERTURES on women’s part, signs that they are interested in us and would welcome a call or date. A woman who acts like she couldn’t care less is unlikely to get a call, unless it’s some dolt who’s just looking for a “challenge,” and most of us AREN’T. We are looking for a relationship that feels comfortable, where we can be ourselves, and try to meet some impossible criteria. A LOT of women post personal ads like, “Want to meet a man who is financially secure, highly educated, has his own mansion, drives a Rolls Royce, and likes to take me to Paris for candlelight dinners on the Champs Elysses.” And what are THEY bringing to the table? Not nearly as much! So, we are looking for overtures and realistic expectations! Whew! Off the dating soapbox, now! ;-)

Overtures are words or actions that let the guy know you are interested. It could be starting a conversation with him, asking him to have lunch with you, giving him a pastry you baked, complimenting him on something . . . those kinds of things. It’s tough being a guy, Annlovestars, because the initiative is usually on us to call for a date–and we do hate being rejected! ;-) We need a SIGN that you are interested! Oh, I’m gonna get kicked out of the men’s club for revealing all of these secrets! ;-)

Well, you can OVERDO the overtures! ;-)

Just be yourself, kid, and make overtures, but don’t go overboard!

A guy likes to think you are interested in HIM, and that you just don’t want “a guy” so you can say you have one! He wants to think he is “special” to you!

don’t force anything, when you find the right guy he’ll want you for you and he will love your querks. You will know and he will no you are right for each other, you just haven’t found the right guy yet. You seem intelegent, maybe the boys your are round can’t handle that. That does not mean dumb yourself down, but maybe understand that you may have to wait until college to find your guy or a guy smart enough to see the beauty in you.

OK, a LOT of guys are intimidated by a really intelligent woman. I’m NOT. I like to be able to engage a brilliant mind, especially the brilliant mind of a woman who loves me! Just avoid those guys who don’t like an intelligent partner. Do NOT, Dearly Beloved, cast your pearls before swine! Again, the guys in your age bracket are barely conscious . . . they have yet to prove themselves in any endeavor, and they have NO real life experience that will tell them the best kind of woman to have. They are, in summary, immature as heck. Do NOT define yourself by these guys! You know, to be perfectly honest, a guy needs to be around 25 or so to really appreciate fine qualities in a woman. I hope you take these words to heart and quit doubting yourself. The problem is NOT you, Dearly Beloved, it’s the guys around you, who are extremely immature!

vary well put chev, That was what I was trying to say, but you worded so much better than I ever could. I to love an intellegent woman. I will admit though that at a younger age I wouldn’t have sought them out because , well frankly the dumb ones were easier, and as a young man that is what I was after. Now that I’m almost thirty I couldn’t imagine ever getting near one of the girls I was all about in high school.

i went through the same feeling some months back. My group of friends hung out with girls but I never felt a connection to any of them. I had no girls who were my friend. I wondered to myself “If I cant get a girl to be my friend how will I one to be my girlfriend?”. Sure enough fate had different plans for me and I met a girl who I feel is the coolest girl ever. Me and her talk every night and it seem almost as if all those years I didnt talk to girls are being made up for with this ONE girl. One person can change it all. Have patience and keep hope alive.

When I was in high school, I kinda felt the same way. Since then, though, I’ve really boosted up my self esteem to the point where it doesn’t really matter to me whether or not I get asked out. Guys do ask me out a lot more than they did before. Soo… just concentrate on your self esteem! It’s all about you! :) Just be yourself and I’m sure they’ll all be wanting to ask you out.