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the best and only cure ive found for this is to simply not give a shit anymore.

well I can tell you what I used to do and it helped me. I used to figure that there are billions of people out there and I had a lot of friends, so if anyone didn’t like me for me than I didn’t need them. besides, people will like the real you or they’re not worth your time.

Hey well first of all you’re a girl. Girls over analyze EVERYTHING. i’m a girl…i know. I definitely can relate to this situation. I think too much over the stupid silly things. But really the most important thing is that you know who you really are. (I know thats so complicated because no one will ever fully and completely know who they are but just listen..) Its not wrong to act differently with different people. As long as you know who you are..as an individual..its ok because you need to adapt to the environment and people you’re with. Different groups of friends are different people so theres different ways for things to be done..in terms of respect, how you talk, what the conversations about and will lead to, etc.
And back to being yourself, everyone has their own self-consciousnesses. I find the best way to forget about it is by helping other people. It takes your eyes off yourself and gives you a more selfless perspective.. :)

lifeisabeach wrote:
Hey well first of all you’re a girl. Girls over analyze EVERYTHING. i’m a girl…i know. I definitely can relate to this situation. I think too much over the stupid silly things. But really the most important thing is that you know who you really are. (I know thats so complicated because no one will ever fully and completely know who they are but just listen..) Its not wrong to act differently with different people. As long as you know who you are..as an individual..its ok because you need to adapt to the environment and people you’re with. Different groups of friends are different people so theres different ways for things to be done..in terms of respect, how you talk, what the conversations about and will lead to, etc.And back to being yourself, everyone has their own self-consciousnesses. I find the best way to forget about it is by helping other people. It takes your eyes off yourself and gives you a more selfless perspective.. :)

she is right. my mom is also like this so i can say that every girl is like this. they think too much on silly things which is useless. i and my father are too cool, we dont take much tension or think too much about anything. As lifeisabeach said, u should make urself busy in other things and try to help others. ppl usually think alot of things because they are free their mind is free and has nothing to do so when u r busy, u’ll not have any problem like that. i hope

I like the saying, “my mind is like a bad neighborhood…never go in there alone!” I talk things out with another person. I have been a long time sufferer of the paralysis by analysis. I can contemplate my navel for days and hours and really get into trouble. I actually have to work at staying out of there. It’s really a form of ego and selfishness to get into my own head like that and I just end up being overly self centered.
I try and keep my focus on helping others. Nothing will pull my head out of my butt faster than helping another person. Give it a try! Things I have tried have been; volunteering at a soup kitchen, 2. Candy Striping (and the uniforms are fun) 3. baby sitting for free for someone I know.
I’m sure you could come up with a few of your own. It really does work, and you end up feeling fullfilled.

when it comes down to it, everyone’s got their own sh!t going on. if they’re going to take the time & energy to judge you, you should probably be flattered. :-)
i agree that it’s a girl thing… just try to stay focused on what makes YOU happy.

My best advice to you is just be who you want. Don’t act like someone else for ANYONE else. Fluidity is the one character trait I look for in all my friends. Be the same person you were when you woke up when you go to sleep.

i think that its a part of human nature to over analyze, we all struggle with it, but in the end you should be grateful to have a mind so tuned in to the people around you, it may not seem like it now but thats a rare gift, dont waste it worrying about what they think of you, all i can say is use it to your advantage and appreciate who you are, look in the mirror every morning and name five things you like about yourself, even if their little things, its the little things that makes us who we are

You think too much? If you’re thinking, that means you are trying to understand something whether it’s why the cars are driving down the street every morning or why you think too much. As weird as this may be, but thinking can be sort of deceiving. You are thinking about a problem, a situation or anything at that and analyzing it, tearing it to bits wondering if this is what I should have done, should be doing, why haven’t I been doing this, I needed to do this blah blah. But it is all a way of trying to understand the world about you and trying to utilize that knowledge for future situations. You think too much? I think everybody should think this much. You get all those d!cks that only do and not think, thus not thinking of you. Wouldn’t it be nice if some people took a step back, analyzed the situation and then spoke or did something? You have a gift my friend. It is my gift as well. Everyone here is telling you to go help someone else…go help someone else, but still think. I think you believe you think too much because of how much you think other people think. But there is a HUGE difference to thinking and acting. And maybe this is a different conversation, but my struggle (and it is the ‘thinking struggle’ that gives my thoughts meaning) for my thoughts doesn’t so much empower me to any action. We need to be balance thinking and acting, or else you won’t get your amazing thoughts heard. It feels like acting is the easy part, thinking is harder, and putting the two together is the hardest. I hope this helps. If you have anymore questions, email me at i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>