MY FRIEND IS CONFUSING!
Okay so me and my girlfriend of 13 months broke up a month ago. We remaind friends with benefits, because sex is good, were comfortable with it, and if something were to happen we know we are both clean and could accept the responsibilities of any “happenings”
About a week after we broke up though, we were talking and it was about us both being bi. Most of it were talking about her wanting to experiment with a girl (just make out) and then out of no where she was like I could see us dating again.
Now she has always played it cool when we were together, never getting upset if I had to cancel a date. And yet she really wants me to go to her prom and military ball (She is in NJROTC and they have a dance every year.) Even though she is cool if I cant make it she really wants me to go. Like depressed when I dont.
Then when we hook up, she is very passionate, more so than when we were together (not lustful, like soft romantic kisses etc). She seems to still want to spend as much time with me as she can. But then she invites me to a beach party and then ignores me the entire time (and we had spent the entire week together beforehand)
But here is the kicker, which just drives me insane. This weekend I told her I thought of joining the military cuz I dont know what to do with my life, and this way I would get paid, and be able to stay away from my insane parents. She got all upset and said I dont want you to die or get hurt, I want you to live forever.
I just dont get it. She seems more comfortable with me now that were broken up (inviting me in when her mom isnt home and such) yet she says and does things that make me think I care. I mean I dont get it. She said she was breaking up with me cuz she didnt love me the same as she used to. Yet she gets upset when there is the risk of me getting hurt (serving) and she even tells me she could see us dating.
Any advice? I dont really know what you could say but do you think she is just leading me on? Or she just didnt know how to simply say she wanted to hook up with a girl and didnt wanna risk cheating? Or IDK? Its just so confusing!
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