Feel help: I found out earlier that my mum miscarried before she had me - Help.com

I found that out about my mom a long time ago. It didn’t really upset me, though. I can’t really offer any advice except that there is no right or wrong way to feel about it. You feel how you feel. That happens to a lot of women, especially during their first pregnancy. Lucky for you she didn’t give up trying to have children.

Why does this upset you? What does it have to do with you at all? I do not understand.

These happen quite often. My mother had a miscarriage before she had my brother. Although I am saddened by the miscarriage I am also thankful. My brother would never have been born if the miscarriage had not happened.
You should be thankful that your delivery was successful and that you are healthy.

I imagine you feel like it was a big deal but you can’t believe that no one told you before now. I felt that way about things I found out as I was growing up. The thing is, a miscarriage is something that your parents surely grieved, but at the same time, no one really got to know the person that they lost so it is different than losing a brother or sister. There is no way a person “should” feel about it, you feel how you feel and you learn to deal with it.

I think it’s sad to think that there was a being who started off in exactly the same place as you and that there was a life before you came along, even though it never came to pass. It may also be that you know your parents were probably really sad at the time and you can empathise with how they felt. Like many people have said, my mum had a miscarriage, two in fact, as did my mother-in-law, it is a very common occurrance.