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Does my 6 year old daughter have ADHD or something else?

She is in Kindergarten and after some adjustment, seems to really enjoy it. She is typically very cooperative but often needs many reminders to stay on task as she gets easily distracted. She also can by hyper-focused on TV to the extend that she tunes everyone and everything out around her. In the beginning of school this year, she would not get dressed easily, now she does get dressed by herself but then needs another reminder often to brush her teeth (because often she is on to something else - TV, a toy). The teachers have said the same things about her and that she does better in smaller groups. She exhibits the same level of distractability in her weekly gymnastics class but in that setting, it’s usually picking her nails or feet that gets her distracted.

She is a very social and loving child which leads me to my next concern. She frequently and easily hugs people, not just people she knows well but often she will accidentally hug strangers! (I guess at the moment, she thinks she knows them). I have tried to tell her over and over to “ask for hugs” but she doesn’t listen. Most times, her friends welcome it though she often hugs smaller children whom she doesn’t know well. This behavior is starting to concern me as she gets older. In fact, in a moment of “euphoria” she hugged and kissed on the cheek, our next door neighbor who is 10 years old! She is also very big for her age so I’m even more concerned about this as she gets older and need some recommended strategies on how to help stop it.

I’m not sure if I should be concerned and what steps I should take if there could be something more here going on.

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annlovestars offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 80 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Indeed, you allready getting there.

maybe sports is an anwser, so she can get out all that bottled energy.
A friend of mine tutored adhd kids, it sounds quite similar. (not sure)
They also often went swimming, the kids loved this and also got more calm.

Try to focus on the good, and look less at the bad things (maybe you allready did) try to come up with a point system maybe where she gets a sticker every time she does something good.

the huggs, i dont know about that, maybe just have a little talk with her in private that not all people like this.

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Tamworth, 43, GB | 3 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

Not sure hun. Will invite someone who knows a lot about raising kids etc, she used to run a daycare 2 and knows a lot about recognising things like that.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

Just because your child isn’t like other children doesn’t necessarily mean there is something wrong with her. ADHD is so over diagnosed, you have to know that not that many kids could have it. Limit at home distractions, cut all junk food, maybe even pull her from extra activites, spend more one on one time with her and see what happens. Maybe it’s all just a bit much for her. Over scheduled kids tend to be a bit distracted. Heck, if I’M over booked I get distracted.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

first of all if she has an ADHD they will probley put her on medication… which most people don’t want to have to do. i would go to the doctor and get an exam and tell them all the sympotoms and then if she wants to put ur daughter on meds. then i would go see a nutritionist to see if you can make a diet or cut junk food to make some of it go away.

as for the hugging… i’m not sure what the problem is with that.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (57 minutes after post)

if your child is having difficulties… and the teacher is noticing such behavior.. best advise is to get her to the dr’s for an evaluation… or a referral to some place that does evaluations for such things.. it could possibly be adhd, add, or even a touch or autism… but again… having it checked out now will result in getting the help necessary in order to keep her learning at the same level as everyone in her class..

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Please, please, please do whatever you can without putting her on meds. Group work, a nutritionist, mild therapy, but not meds. It’s the answer to everything these days and it’s horrific. Try to limit her TV/computer access, make it as short as possible, it won’t be helping if there is anything wrong with her.
Kids are by their nature a little manic, the whole point of childhood is to run around, get into everything and enjoy themselves. Avoid medication if at all possible, you’ll be changing her entire personality for the worse.

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Toronto, ON, CA | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Your daughter is only 6. She’s only in kindergarten. Unless she is super hyperactive, she is probably too young for a diagnosis of ADHD, although I’m sure there are doctors out there who would diagnose it anyway. It is typical for kids that young to have a very short attention span and be distractable and forgetful. Try instead to limit her tv viewing, and keep her occupied with things instead like educational toys. Also be careful to ensure a nutritious diet.

As for the hugging, that is a behavioural problem that needs to be addressed. No drugs will fix that.

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