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Does my 6 year old daughter have ADHD or something else?
She is in Kindergarten and after some adjustment, seems to really enjoy it. She is typically very cooperative but often needs many reminders to stay on task as she gets easily distracted. She also can by hyper-focused on TV to the extend that she tunes everyone and everything out around her. In the beginning of school this year, she would not get dressed easily, now she does get dressed by herself but then needs another reminder often to brush her teeth (because often she is on to something else - TV, a toy). The teachers have said the same things about her and that she does better in smaller groups. She exhibits the same level of distractability in her weekly gymnastics class but in that setting, it’s usually picking her nails or feet that gets her distracted.
She is a very social and loving child which leads me to my next concern. She frequently and easily hugs people, not just people she knows well but often she will accidentally hug strangers! (I guess at the moment, she thinks she knows them). I have tried to tell her over and over to “ask for hugs” but she doesn’t listen. Most times, her friends welcome it though she often hugs smaller children whom she doesn’t know well. This behavior is starting to concern me as she gets older. In fact, in a moment of “euphoria” she hugged and kissed on the cheek, our next door neighbor who is 10 years old! She is also very big for her age so I’m even more concerned about this as she gets older and need some recommended strategies on how to help stop it.
I’m not sure if I should be concerned and what steps I should take if there could be something more here going on.
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Not sure hun. Will invite someone who knows a lot about raising kids etc, she used to run a daycare 2 and knows a lot about recognising things like that.
Just because your child isn’t like other children doesn’t necessarily mean there is something wrong with her. ADHD is so over diagnosed, you have to know that not that many kids could have it. Limit at home distractions, cut all junk food, maybe even pull her from extra activites, spend more one on one time with her and see what happens. Maybe it’s all just a bit much for her. Over scheduled kids tend to be a bit distracted. Heck, if I’M over booked I get distracted.
first of all if she has an ADHD they will probley put her on medication… which most people don’t want to have to do. i would go to the doctor and get an exam and tell them all the sympotoms and then if she wants to put ur daughter on meds. then i would go see a nutritionist to see if you can make a diet or cut junk food to make some of it go away.
as for the hugging… i’m not sure what the problem is with that.
if your child is having difficulties… and the teacher is noticing such behavior.. best advise is to get her to the dr’s for an evaluation… or a referral to some place that does evaluations for such things.. it could possibly be adhd, add, or even a touch or autism… but again… having it checked out now will result in getting the help necessary in order to keep her learning at the same level as everyone in her class..
Please, please, please do whatever you can without putting her on meds. Group work, a nutritionist, mild therapy, but not meds. It’s the answer to everything these days and it’s horrific. Try to limit her TV/computer access, make it as short as possible, it won’t be helping if there is anything wrong with her.
Kids are by their nature a little manic, the whole point of childhood is to run around, get into everything and enjoy themselves. Avoid medication if at all possible, you’ll be changing her entire personality for the worse.
Your daughter is only 6. She’s only in kindergarten. Unless she is super hyperactive, she is probably too young for a diagnosis of ADHD, although I’m sure there are doctors out there who would diagnose it anyway. It is typical for kids that young to have a very short attention span and be distractable and forgetful. Try instead to limit her tv viewing, and keep her occupied with things instead like educational toys. Also be careful to ensure a nutritious diet.
As for the hugging, that is a behavioural problem that needs to be addressed. No drugs will fix that.
Hey…I found this posting because I’m going through the SAME things with my 6 year old. I was reading that and I felt like you were describing my little one. She plays well one on one, but I have family in town visiting and I feel really bad for having to stay on her and tell her to CALM DOWN. What did you end up doing for your little girl??
i am going throught the same thing with my daughter; that’s how i found this site, too. mine is in first grade and is already behind, 6 weeks into school. i worry so much about her. she hasn’t made any friends and thinks that if she physically forces them, then they’ll be with her. they are becoming a bit afraid of her. she’s so thoughtful in many ways and loves to dance, but she’s so into her imaginitive world that she can’t focus on tasks and continually needs reminders for everything. we don’t eat junk food, and are, I think, limited in our television watching; we watch a couple movies on the weekends as a family. any suggestions or comments or….?
Hey Gregor…take your daughter to a child psychologist. I took mine to one and she had an in-depth assessment. She was diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive/hyperactive), she’s 7 now. I feel comfortable with the diagnosis…not only was I anticipating it, I did my homework and took her to a place where she would be judged as a 7 year old girl, not just on some circles on a page.
They evaluated her Vanderbilt results. They did some computer testing, and took a complete family history. We’re starting her on meds tomorrow, and we’re also going to be doing child-parent interactive therapy to help both of us. Me learning how to parent a child with ADHD and her learning how to cope. Please e-mail me if you have any questions… i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
When i was little i used to be the same. i did gymnastics at 6 my mum took me to school with her when i was 6 and i hugged the head master. to this day (im 14) im reli figity and really hyperactive i dont know if i have adhd my mum doesnt think i do so i think im just messed up. im reli hyper in school. tho i can sit on my lappy for 5-6 hours without being bored but when i do get bored i runa round my room with my dog acting a right idiot. i dunno what to do and if this is adhd i need help. Also i have a boy mate with adhd and i find it easier to have play fights with him than my own normal friends. please emal
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If your mum wont take you to the docs, I would take go yourself, or maybe ask your mum how she can help you not feel so hyper all the time as ypu have enough to deal with being a teenager. If you see a naturapath they may be able to help with some natural products to help you focus and be more calm. I have a 6 year old daughter also seems to have the same problem. Just goes a bit nutty sometimes and hyper emotions which seem uncontrolable. I am using fish oil as I have heard it may help, trying to stay away from any drugs. I think mediation or Yoga at your age would also be great and regular excercize. Good luck, you are not messed up, the body is a complex thing, you just need to find your balance.
I also have a 6 yr old daughter. as I was reading your concerns I found myself thinking of my girl. She is in first grade now but the things you’ve described sound just like her last year in kindergarten. I hope it comforts you to know that like my 6 year old who will be 7 in a month, has turned it around. She too is big for her age and people have always expected more of her. My daughter’s hugging used to be refered to as mauling. She was not aware of certain bounderies or her strength.She just knew that she loved to be with other people.she is my only child. She has lots of friends and continues to hug them but more gently now. Her teachers have been very pleased with her growth. It’s just who she is. She still has lots of energy and loves to be silly. I wouldnt have her any other way and I tell her that whenever possible. Your daughter sounds GREAT to me. Embrace her and help her to embrace her personality but in a toned down version. These drug companies offer free lunches and bonuses to drs. offices who over prescribe their drugs. Your daughter is 6. Give her time and she will be as wonderful as she is but more appropriate which comes with maturity. Enjoy her!!!
My daughter is the same way, and I am woundering the same thing. Reading this was like I was reading about my daughter only she is in 1st grade and Insted of gymnastics she is in Dance. Since you posted this have you found out any new information?
not really sur wat to do. my daughter is 6 and n Kindergarden, at home we hav a real hard time tryn to get her to listen. And she is very sassy. i hav talkd to her teachers and they say that she is a very bright kid but she bullys other kids. and is prety sassy towards them too. I just dont know wat to do and more, she does get rewarded for her good behaver but we take away her tv, ipod, ds send her to her rm time out nothing seems to b working and i just dont want it to effect her later n life. any advise??
my son is 9 and still does this. This is not appropiate. ..and no longer cute since he is real tall..
You need to teach your 6 year old that “Hugging strangers ” is NOT APPROPIATE!! It seems cute now, but trust me, from my expierence, at 9 it is not cute. My son wants to hug anyone, that says hello to him and every baby and child younger than him! When he was 6 it was cute , but at 9, the parents of the babies get nervous..this makes me uncomfortable…the older your child becomes the more unacceptable it will be. And now it will be a hard habit for you to break!!
Here is the solution of what worked for me… Every time you enter a social setting ,weather it be outdoor play in front of your home, park or party or even a trip to the store…give your child a social story..explain that It is NOT OK to talk to adults or hug anyone including a baby!!! When your child breaks this rule..take him aside and explain that that was a stranger and NOT OK to touch a stranger …
Trust me ..if you dont fix it now..as your child gets older even at 9 years old…. other parents whom kids your child is hugging will be grabbing there babies, thinking something is wrong with your child and look to protect there child,thinking your child will hurt there babies..stop the hugging now.. be cause it will be hard to control later… you are allowing this and it is not acceptable …
Words of advice from an expeirenced mom of a 9 year old who just loves everyone!! and has adhd
Reading this post has given me some closure. My daughter is 6 and will be 7 in about a couple months. Shes in first grade and she hugs people. People she doesn’t know! I went to a friends kids bday party and there was one of her neighbors there and she hugged him. He didn’t know what to do or think. She is also very tall for her age so people think she is like 8 or 9. :/ The hugging concerns me and I wonder why she thinks this behavior is ok. I start thinking maybe theres something wrong with her. But she just is loveable. And hyper sometimes. Shes very in the moment. Goes with her thoughts. But… I don’t know how else to explain to her that this is NOT ok! I have had talks with her. And she still does it! People look at me like wth lady?? I don’t think she is ADHD but she is hyper in school and has to have many many reminders to keep on task. But she gets her work done and with very little help. I kinda think she’s just bored. But she also has a speech delay, which is getting better all the time. We’ve been to the neurologist 3 times and hes said (hes head of the neurology dept in Rainbow Babies here in OHIO) that shes OK. No autism or aspergers or anything. So I’m left clueless. Thank you all for sharing your stories. Because its given me some closure. And maybe I just need to learn to accept that this is HER and her personality. :)
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