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I care too much what other people think…

how do you get over that? How do you up your own confidence level and learn to love yourself and care less what others think?

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I care too much what other people think…how do you get over that? How do you up your own confidence level and learn to love yourself and care less what others think?

ExplodingBeautyQueen offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Write down positive things every day, dress in what flatters your body, tell yourself positive things, and you’re always going to care what others think. It can’t be avoided. Just don’t become obsessed with it.

Always know we’re all human and make mistakes too, and there’s always people out there who love and care about us.

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The Seven Stars offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Carlsbad, CA, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Be more selfish. As weird as it sounds, it’s true. Altruism and selflessness are the greatest frauds on earth. But I’m getting a bit off topic, haha.

We all look to other people when we’re doing something that’s not true to ourselves. When you do something or find something that’s truly you, then you no longer need the approval of others. What’s hard is listening to that small voice inside of you, the one is truly you. That’s the only way to be happy in life.

Once you find what you truly want then other people will no longer matter. You won’t need them to tell you what to think. What matters is creating what is truly you.

Summing it all up, Live For Yourself.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Take some psychedelic drugs. Lots. They’ll teach you about yourself.

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ExplodingBeautyQueen offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Wha, I have to agree with you. I know we sound like druggies, but seriously. It opens up your mind.

If you’re not into the whole “illegal” thing, there’s always morning glory seeds, which are TOTALLY legal.

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ExplodingBeautyQueen offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (13 hours, 25 minutes after post)

It opens up doors of ways of thinking you never would have discovered before that. You learn to look at life, at yourself, not in ways that society has taught you, but ways that can be true to you and help you.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

Maybe psychologically in a sense for some people, but in no way physically addictive that I know of, and it is also impossible to fatally overdose on them alone.

Plus they’re a little nasty to eat, and no matter how you prepare them, they tend to cause a little nausea so don’t worry about the addictive part. You’ll most likely only want to do them once.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (4 days, 14 hours after post)

Look online to see what is best to use. The most guaranteed way to get high from them, I think, is just to eat them, either straight up (though it is NASTY) or grind them up and put them in a food. You can get them anywhere you can get flower seeds basically. Look up information online before you go and do it and make sure to be prepared. Always take something for naseau and make sure you’re in a good environment, cuz it’s a long trip…

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ExplodingBeautyQueen offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (6 days, 15 hours after post)

Yeah it’s chemcially very similar to LSD, the trip, depending on how much you take, can last 5 to 10 hours.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (4 months after post)

Well, if that is what you are, that is what you are! It is usually difficult, sometimes hurtful and most of the times; energy consuming. But then, no matter what you try to do to overcome this ‘caring about others’ aspect - it comes back to bite you. This is what you are and why feel bad about it, take pride and say ‘I CARE’ others may **** well not!!!

Be proud of yourself :)

Hard to find people who care and when you say you are that - you ought to be unique…enjoy that uniqueness :)

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catherine_love offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (4 months, 2 weeks after post)

i have the same problem

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

I care too much and yes sometimes its great but lots of times its awful. I have a clue that one of my greatest strengths is my heart so when i really put my heart into something i cant fail. I am talking metaphysically here. I wish hard enough it always comes true.

the problem is 9-5 cos i put that same heart into organising the dvds and washing the stove. its **** exhausting. and lately i am becoming more aware of it. when i get up in the morning and i cant remember where i put something i summon all my energy to find it. why? my god its insane. I am sure i would find it without ALL THAT energy.

a)So i care and love people i love and its devastating when they dont respond properly
b) when i do a job i need my boss to approve
C) i want to be my ideal person so bad, i try so hard to achieve it and it exhausts me
d)My heart and mind are very powerful if focused on the right things
e) I need to be truer to myself then that energy i expend will benefit me and others instead of stressing me out while i try get good at organising when its not really my thing for eg.

Basically i am at the next part of my self discovery. I have learned self discipline outwardly and know as I approach my more spiritual self I must learn control of my emotions, my mind, my purpose and all the energy that makes me. Its great to care but it must be directed and focused wisely.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

its this simple. u care too much what people think of YOUUUUUUU. not what people “think”. dont stop caring what people think, just stop caring what people think of you and how u do things.

(life is too mysterious, dont take it too serious)

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (10 months, 2 weeks after post)

why so serious? u are uniqueness to ur frds and family

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 5 months after post)

i have that problem sometimes. at times i feel confident, i act more confident and things bounce off me more breezily. but sometimes when i’m not having a great moment, i can even get a little more neurotic. but when it comes down to it, let people think what they think. you can’t control that. and worrying about it is just a waste of time. i think it might come with self-esteem issues. i’m not gonna lie, i’m not the greatest when it comes to self-esteem. but i am improving on that. when you are more confident about yourself, you will care less about what others do or think.

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