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i would tell him relationships are based on trust if you can’t tell him and he finds out i think he’ll feel worse then if you told him….

I don’t think you should tell him. I know honesty is the best policy, but in this case, I think it’ll just hurt him.

you can unburden your conscience to make yourself feel good, but your bf is going to feel real bad. you don’t have to tell everything you do, you really don’t. why don’t you just make a promise to yourself that you won’t do it again? if he ever finds out, then you come clean and tell him you were stupid and won’t ever do it again. it’s good your conscience hurts but don’t heal yourself by wounding your bf! everybody messes up sometime. you just try to keep from making same mistakes over and over.

You have to tell him, and be prepared to lose him. Trust is the hardest thing ever to gain back once it is broken and he may not be willing to forgive and forget. You can’t keep this big secret forever, it will kill you. Also, if you keep the secret and he finds out on his own he will be even more upset that you lied for so long and he will feel doubly betrayed. How would you feel if you found out he cheated on you and lied about it? Hopefully this will work out for the best.

If he cheated on you, would you want to know?

I think you should tell him. He would want to know. If you lose him thats the risk you run. But you need to respect him enough to tell him. You messed up, and it’s better to just tell him and get it over with. Just get it off your chest!