Year help: hi am 19 years old and a dont kno what to do, a really feel like - Help.com

it wont upset anyone here we all have problems we talk about. go ahead and say it. ill listen.

Forget about foolish pride, we are ALL human… it’s OK to need to talk to someone, we all do at times. In fact, it might even help others to KNOW you are just as human as they are… you have feelings too!! So if you have someone close to you, why not share with them? Sharing is what brings people even closer to each other. You don’t have to always put on a strong front!! Talking to someone is much better than drinking.

You can also talk here, of course… lots of people willing to lend an ear and offer advice and opinions!!!

Be strong coz 19’s loads to go. You WILL find your other half / partner but give it some time. Remember all those twentysomething divorcees find true love later. Some teenagers find love first sight!! (Lucky ****ers*”) Most of us search for years then find it unexpectedly…… I’m sure there’s someone who’ll find you absolutely gorgeous, and then some….

I’m 20 and I feel exactly the same way… not talking to anyone really makes me sad cause i cant share and i feel so alone… but i dont want to talk to my friends/family cause i dont think they understand what im going through and those who do are only gonna get more depresssed cause im depressed and i dotn want to make the people i love feel that way…. so i hide it all… i feel like i should be an adult… but im still a child inside and im so scared… i dont know what to do either.. =( but at least ur not alone.. remember… whenever your crying and lonely i probably am doing the exact same thing.. i’ve been crying alot lately.. i cant help it.

hey im 19 too and i feel u on this. lately i been feeling like i have nobody to talk to at all and all my problems and stress just builds up and i drive myself crazy. thats why i signed up for this today beacuse its helped me to let out what im feeling and now i have people to talk to about my problems. look everyone here including me will listen thats what we are here for. so whatever problem you are having you can tell me or anybody else here so we can help you. i will listen! :)

im 18, im trying to avoid it this problem. im making myself join the marines. im worried.

I know, help.com is pretty great… i came here for the same reasons. But i stumbled upon it by chance

I wouldnt join the army … but its sad that the only way to survive in this country is to fight their stupid war and probably die for oil. Yeah thats a great way to acheive the american dream.

Awww Daft, don’t “make” yourself join… not if you really don’t want that!!!

**** that stubborn pride of yours, always got to be the strong one?! its so all self-consuming.
you forget to live your own life, and make your own mistakes, and you end up living for others, ignore your own body and mind until it hits you back.
which there is a good chance it will.
it is great to be strong, it is really a very proud thing, but ocassionally, you know, you are allowed to be slightly selfish and ask for things sometimes, you are allowed to be looked after yourself.
find someone who you can allow them do that for you?
you don’t have to be strong all the time. no one is.

Well said, ayc. Other people like to do some giving in return sometimes too… it makes people feel good… so let someone be there for you for a change!! :)

yeah but people who help others are usually surrounded by people who take help from others but dont return it… usually the ones who help the most get helped the least in return.

I love my friends… but I also understand that i will do everything i can to make their lives perfect but they wont go that far in return for me… it dosent mean that they dont care or wont be there sometimes… but they wont do as much as I would do for them… sometimes I feel like i’m willing to help people TOO much. Maybe thats my problem.. I get drained by the people i help and have nothing left to give myself.

kinda true, but there all always certain people, one in a million maybe, even out of your million friends, who do more than they even try to do and just well, help, more than anyone else, could be friends, could be lovers. seems to happen, naturally. weird, but does happen all the time.
depends on how you conduct yourself, some people are able to see through a persona, and that will not work on them, they just end up caring for you, even if you pretend you don’t need it.

im 20 and im the same way. im always the strong one, my friends come too me when they need too someone too talk too. but i cant talk about my probs to people. i just feel vunarable, and i have trust issues. i know its hard too talk too people, but i would listin to you. i have an easier time on this site, then i do with people i have known 4ever.