life help: Ever had to break someone’s heart? - Help.com

Wow… well one thing for sure, you made me realize what someone has been trying to tell me… Only I wish he would tell me that in those words! You put it so simply I can understand.

I truly suggest you tell this person, as hard as it may be. If it was meant to be, it will happen again, sometime when you’re both ready. If not, there’s someone else out there for you, I’m sure!!

The guy I still like broke up with me after dating for a month, for I’m guessing similar reasons to the ones you gave, only he would constantly call me afterwards so I was getting these mixed signals because when he came over I kept it platonic until he wanted to snuggle and kiss haha. Anyway, just don’t drag them around. Be COMPLETELY open and honest, and I’m sure he/she will understand. If the guy I liked would have been so clear with me, I wouldn’t be so darn confused. But beware, make sure this is how you feel before you tell them. You really don’t want to open this huge can of worms if you don’t have to because it can be an emotional rollercoaster for most. I suggest defining everything, what you are and aren’t, how you feel, how you don’t feel, EVERYTHING!! Honesty is best.

either way, it’s going to hurt the other person and probably even you. But I always feel honesty is the best way to go. Let he/she know what you want(and don’t want)…everything.

You have to tell them. I canceled my wedding one month before it was due to take place. Don’t go down the road I did. I was scared, but it would have saved so much more heartache if I had just told the guy earlier. There was nothing wrong with the guy, he was a fantastic person and would have made a great husband, but he did not light my fire.

I hear many people talk about focusing on their career and it causes love to be lost. But does that have to be? Perhaps he or she could be more understanding and the both of you just work with the relationship as you are pursuing your career. One day you will want someone by your side, do you want it to be him?

Coastie 303 wrote:

Shakeybritches wrote:
I hear many people talk about focusing on their career and it causes love to be lost. But does that have to be? Perhaps he or she could be more understanding and the both of you just work with the relationship as you are pursuing your career. One day you will want someone by your side, do you want it to be him?

But the main point is that I am so okay being single.

Then stick with that. If you aren’t sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then I think pursuing your career is the way to go for you.

Glad I could play a small, encouraging part.