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I used to feel really bad about my life and stupidly resorted to cutting myself.

I put it down to the stress of exams I was going through and thought it would stop after. I did stop cutting myself and I got some sense. But now I go through really dark periods. I always blame it on something and think that when that is over, I will be happy. But I never am. Or else I always think once I get something I’ll be happy. But then I get it and I still am not.
I am uber happy in front of my friends, but I frequently lock myself in my room and hide under my duvet just crying all night. I tend to spiral down and down until I end up contemplating horrible thoughts and then later I am shocked at what i was thinking.
Yesterday I reached another low and went into a shop. I only had a small amout of money and I was trying to decide whether I should buy a ******** of pills to take and just go somewhere where I wouldn’t be disturbed, or else use the money to contact people on my phone. And at the time it seemed like a totally normal thing to contemplate, and I wanted more than anything to buy the pills. I regularly just spiral downwards and think of ways to die. And it doesn’t upset me at the time, just fills me with relief. So far, I tend to snap out of it before I do anything drastic.
Usually I go back to being normal, but now I just feel drained, and like I don’t care any more about anything. Where as before it was a rollercoaster of emotions which went from estatically happy the very odd time to unbelievably depressed, now I am either unbelievably depressed or just past caring and emotionally drained.

I am just tired of putting on a front for my friends and everyone. I am tired of everything. I don’t even know why I am writing this. This is the closest I have ever come to telling anyone though, and even just typing it is making me cry. I was always known as the girl who smiled, and people used to ask me if I ever didn’t smile. I am incapable of doing anything else infront of others. Yet by myself I am just the opposite.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Perhaps you could talk about this with your parents? Or another trusted adult like a school guidance counselor or a pastor?

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1 year, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Im not in school! Im a fair bit older than that. And talking to my parents is just not an option. Its like…..this isn’t me. It isn’t an option for me to feel like this. My family has always gone on about how they don’t understand how anyone could ever feel like this, or feel depressed, or conemplate stuff like that. They have always ridiculed it when talking about characters from movies or tv shows. Obviously, thats a how different scenario. But they have a total lack of understanding and would not understand how I could be anything other than happy. And equally my pastor is good friends with my family so I cant talk to him. And he is good friends with everyone I know, so I feel I can’t talk to him. He knows me too well and knows everyone I know.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year, 7 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Get professional counseling or call your local church to speak to a pastor. Those people will have more experince helping people deal with the kinds of things you are going through.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (30 minutes after post)

i may not exactly know how you feel but i’ve felt something similar at least once or twice. what you’re doing now, writing here and posting anonymously is one way of letting it out. so continue doing it. it really helps. it would also be best to look into something you might be able to do to keep your mind off the horrible things that make you want to do all that, but if there are old friends whom you haven’t heard from in a while, you might wanna say hi to them and that’ll also keep you a little preoccupied. you might even find that these long lost friends are still there to listen and help.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year, 7 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Praying is also something that helps me a lot.

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manzlac offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 1 year, 7 months ago (36 minutes after post)

pray to god. believe in yourself…seek a phycologist…i did the very same thing. although i felt bad for cutting myself i couldnt stop. talk to someone aboutit…tell them how you feel and about your problems, it really does help.

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ibniqba offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (42 minutes after post)

I think you definately need to talk to someone - offload for lack of a better word. I know it may seem like the most unlikeliest thing yuo want to do painful and bothersome and pointless .. but one for sure is that keeping all those emotions/thoughts inside is not healthy by any measure. As cleche as it seems counselling/psychaitrists are helpful and it seems to me need somthing to grasp back on to again (in terms of ur present life) some happiness or satifaction or goal/ambition that you need to realise that will bring back the desire and love of life and hopefully drive out those destructive thoughts for good.

Look deep .. i’m sure you’ll find alot you have to life for :)

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ibniqba offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (47 minutes after post)

pardon the gramatical/spelling mistakes in my post above … didn’t preview it :S

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