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I have a daughter who has just turned 3. My problem is that she has tantrums for no reason, she has to win and have the last word, I have been stern, I have tried kindness and nothing works. She just cries more to the point of being sick. Please help me I am a single mum and I am desperate. When she finishes her bottle I have to go and get it or she will have a tantrum. Please tell me it’s a phase. I even considered taking her to the doctor to see if there was something wrong with her that made her do that :(

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אָ QaSh אָ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I think u should really go to a doctor

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1 year, 7 months ago (34 minutes after post)

your best bet would be to try to egnor her till she stops it will be hard but it sounds like she wants your atention

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 hours, 18 minutes after post)

ok you say she is 3 well i have a 3yr.old and i know what you are going through, my girl can be mean and say hurtful thing’s and do all of the thing’s you talkted about acepted the thing with the bottle,she dont take a bottle anymore.I cant really say i know what you are going through as a single mom i am not one so god bless you for all that you do.i do think that maybe you are haveing trouble with her maybe b/c you have to be mom and dad and i know that it’s hard to play two different rolls in the house,you may have so much trouble b/c on one you want to be her friend and on the other her mom,idk but i was always told you cant be both to your child,it may be the reason your having so much trouble with her,you might have to put your foot down and make her listen but that dont mean you cant go do thing’s with her it just means you might have to be a little harded on her.Well i wish you the best of luck on this adventure of being a mom and dont worry one day she will thank you for all that you do and have done!!!! :) and i also think it’s normal for her to cry till she is sick mine dose it to and has made herself sick more than one time!!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

Thank you all for your advice, I will keep you posted. I do reward her and say well done for small things. I always approach her with sweetness as being a victim of a violent father I do not want to ever be like him!
Maybe I should give her more attention, it’s hard to do all the chores and play, but I must find time. I also think she is searching for attention as she is always alone. I have no friends or family. Hopefully she starts kindergarten in September and I hope this will change her. She will play with other children.

I have tried ignoring her but she screams for up to 30 minutes and tries to vomit. I can’t see her like that. I also live in an appartment and I can’t have her screaming late at night :(
Thank you all I will try all the things you told me. I will keep you posted :)

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 months, 1 week after post)

Thank you………

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (10 months, 1 week after post)

This is my best time to injoy my life……………

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