Love help: Ok so I thought (still do) he was “the one” we were - Help.com

forget about that bi***. He did wrong to leave you. And your mother shouldn’t have stepped in on true love. She ruined the whole relationship. Find a new gyu, or if you dont wanna go back to dating go to Mad school. Go to a doctor if you that bad in depression. Wish ya luck hunn!! :)

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Well this guy is either a real sorry piece of **** or he left because he didn’t want to be the one causeing problems with your mom. So all you can really do is try to get back to your normal self, if you need to see a doctor. Then maybe you should take off a semister and relax. As far as you mom goes she might just be hurt cause you chose him. Good luck.

It is human nature to pursue that which retreats from us. The minute he couldn’t have you, he wanted you more, and the minute he had you he backed away. He strikes me as immature and maybe its best to stop pursuing him completely.

As for your mother, well, regardless of the decisions you make she should have your back. That she would rather control you than support you tells me that you need to start building some self-sufficiency in your life regardless of the actions of your mom or your ex. Go back to school, get a job and build a nest egg, whatever, just start planning on getting your independence back. Suffer her until you have enough to get your own place and can support yourself, then never look back.

You can only accountable for your own actions. Don’t feel guilt or self doubt because your mom chose to act that way, or your ex. Get there for yourself. Good luck.

Well, the guy sounds like a real jerk and you don’t need that… even if you still feel you love him, he certainly wasn’t very good to you. I’m sure you can do better. Without knowing the details, I don’t know why your mother hated him so or decided to “hate” you too… but really I guess she doesn’t if she let you stay with her again… so I hope you can work out your issues?? I think you really need to let go of this guy… I mean work to get over him and move on. Let it be over. Get help for the depression in the meantime, because it really sounds like your sinking in deep when it’s affecting your life so, and not even eating. Do what it takes to help you get through this time, and then get back on track. Don’t give up your dreams because of this… push yourself a little, get focused again on other things for your life and do good things for yourself. There’s a better future for you out there, and eventually someone who will love you the way you should be loved.

Just another thought though… Did he ever explain why he left? I mean, you don’t suppose your mother threatened him somehow, right after you chose him over her???

my mother hated him, I think, because i met him very soon after my dad left my mom between the time that my dad left and i met my boyfriend i just kind of ended up becoming my mothers husband as in she leaned on me for everything emotionally and financially when i met him and fell in love i think she was worried i would leave her i tried very hard to not make her feel that way but she made it hell so i moved out on my own which only made her hate him more. she could never give me a reason why she hated him except “he rubs me the wrong way” and his reason for leaving was “Im a guy i got scared, and im not ready to get married” when i told him i didnt want to get married yet either he just said “i need time with my friends for a while”

Wow. Well, I guess your mother really has some emotional issues, and it was odd that you would have to choose her or him!! I guess she really WAS that jealous and insecure, that it was like YOU became her partner. It would be great if you two could open up to each other more on this subject though and get on better terms… it sounds like she needs to do some healing too and face some realities about her life that she’s not handling very well. It would be really great if you could get some counseling for yourself and also some advice on how to deal with your mother and her issues.

As for the guy… well, he’s definitely a huge jerk. Let him go… he didn’t treat you right, and he had his chance. I know that’s easier for me to say, but he’s not capable of giving you the love you should have… what he did was awful. Let it be his loss and move on. Get your life back on track again, and I’m sure you will eventually meet someone special. You need to stop yourself from dwelling on him anymore… it’s making you sick. Make a conscious effort to stop thinking about him, any time you catch yourself… you have to retrain your mind because dwelling on him has become a habit that is sinking you into a deep depression. Let him go and really work on getting him out of your thoughts… focus on other things, anything else at all when you catch yourself doing it. Focus on YOU now, and healing you… start rebuilding, without him. It’s a new start.