life help: My brother and I have lived with our mom for 10 years. - Help.com

I talk to my mom almost every night on the phone. The last time when we went to court the judge and lawyers talked to me and my brother both. The only reason the second judge chose what she chose was she didn’t want to go against what the other judge chose. She was afraid to change the descion not because of what happened with my step dad though.

That’s what me and my brother both did already though. I just feel like no one cares.

That’s terrible! Try talking to a school guidance counselor about it or a teacher. Tell them you’ve been cutting and show them. They will help you take action.

That is wrong for your dad to keep you away from your mom when you want to be with her.

I know. and Thank you. I just somehow need to get my dad to understand that I have thought of suicide. I used to be suicidal and that’s why I haven’t done anything.

Also I go to a counseler but she doesn’t help me at all. I’ve told y dad that, but he just says give her time and she will.

Or call 911 tell them your really depressed and you have been cutting and you’re starting to think about stuff that’s even worse. Tell them that you need to live with you’re mom again. Tell them you need help now!

That would only cause more problems though. My dad would accuse my mom of kiddnapping then she might go to jail.

Call 911 and tell them that you are thinking of suicide. They’ll come pick you up. Then your dad will know how serious it is. Then people will start listening to what you need.

Calling 911 about your suicidal thoughts and telling them about the stress of living with your dad…no one would blame your mom for that.

My dad knows that I’m depressed. I’ve already tried to tell him that i’m thinking of suicide but he doesn’t care.

You can actually do what you want. You have a voice. Make people listen to your needs.

He will care when the ambulance shows up at your house and takes you away.

And i’ve used my voice.

What do you think of telling a teacher or calling 911?

I dont know what country you are from, so I dont know your legal system.

If you are in the UK you can ask the court to appoint what is called a gaudian-ad-litem. This is a court official who is trained to find the best result possible in the clildrens best interest.

Please try to find a social services or welfare service in your own country, to look into what is best for you and the rest of the children.

It might be worth trying to look into other child care options, if the present situation is causing you so many problems.

Whatever you do, keep going back to the judge. By writing if neccerssary, every day, to tell him/her how un-happy you are with their decission.

911 would be so dramatic. Then they would listen.

all my dad says is you’ll get more used to it here[and I’ve been here for 6 months] and it’s much better here for you and your brother

I’ve told my dad, the counseler, my mom, the judge, the lawyers, and much more.

911 is very easy. Pick up the phone and tell them you need help. Tell them what you told us.

That will make things happen.

But that would be very pointless when my mom and dad are going back to court in like 2 or so months.

You need to keep on telling the judge daily if needed to change his/her mind. That their present decission is making you and your brother ill.

If you didn’t need help now you wouldn’t be here.

I’m asking if there’s a way for me to cope with my feelings until the time

Not other than what is above. You still have to live your daily life, your doctor could be some one to aproach about this as well.

my dad won’t take me to a doctor for some anti-depressents.

Then go on your own. Explain to the doctor what is happening to you and your brother. You will be surprised at the amount of power and facilities a doctor has.

I dont know what it is you want from us, no matter what we sugest to you. You turn it down immediately. There would seem to be no options left to sugest to you.

I’m in Uk but far as I know you can call DFS (childrens services or just walk in on your own). It may be that you are not safe with either of your parnets right now. Maybe you need a quiet place just to let your brain recover from all this upset. I know you wont like this but there seems to be a worry about your safety at your Mums house. Judges are not perfect but it’s like a big cloud hanging over you getting a chance to move back there.

At your age anti-depressants are really the last resort. If you are that unhappy I say you get somewhere where there is no pressure. If that means foster care then so be it. Whats to lose? You are bright enough to object to any situation you dont like so apply that intelligence to looking for a good solution. If you were a small child without a voice I’d feel different, you need a mental rest and a bit of care and affection. Sometimes you have to get that from where ever you can.

I live in the United States. And I’m only 13. I just turned.

OK walk into DFS - I take it you want to stay with your brother - so demand that. Ask for a foster placement where you can be together until this mess is fixed. I have a feeling that you might not know everything about mum’s house - judges do work on reports that you wont even have seen. go on - take back charge. You and your brother deserve a break and like I said if your foster carers are not up to standard then get back here and we will shout for you