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ok so my grandma had brain lung and bone cancer.

we have known for about 6 months now. two weeks ago we went to see her and my aunt said she has two weeks til she would probably go. today (two weeks and one day later) she died. i have a friend that lives an hour away who i havent seen in a few months. i was supposed to go to her house two weekends ago but i had to go to vegas. then this passes weekend i was supposed to go but i got the stomach flu. now i was supposed to go this weekend but now my grandma died. tomorrow they r going to make arrangments for the funeral. i dont think the funeral would be this weekend (4 days away). i have grieved when i found out she was this sick and since i have found out she died i havent cried. would it be wrong to go to my frinds house? or should i stay home?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I am sorry to hear about your grandma, but i am also relieved to see that you are still in a good condition to have accepted such loss of your family.

It is okay to go and visit your friend, just make sure that you would not miss the funeral because it is also important for you to be with your family on that moment.

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (4 minutes after post)

if the funeral was this weekend i would for sure not go. i would probably be disgraced from my family if i did that.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Hey… I’m sorry for your loss.

I think that you might regret not going to the funeral… though it may seem that your grief is passed now, you never know if you’re just holding it in and hiding it from yourself. The worst thing would be to not go to the funeral and wish you had so that you could see your grandmother one more time and say goodbye. Your friend will still be there next weekend… maybe she can even come out and support you through the funeral this weekend.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Im sorry for ur loss, my gramma died last year, it was her time tho. i think you should fo to the funeral, it will give you closure that, while you may not need or even want now, will crave later.

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

jackettigir wrote:
if the funeral was this weekend i would for sure not go. i would probably be disgraced from my family if i did that.

what i meant was i wouldnt go to me friends house i woud most deffinetly go to the funeral

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Yes, that is also what i was thinking of. That is a good decision.

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (12 minutes after post)

but do u think my parents or sisters would be upset if i went? one of them cried when they heard.

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (13 minutes after post)

none cried i mean

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (14 minutes after post)

They might be, we never know unless you would ask them about your plans of going somewhere. Are they allowing you to go?

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (17 minutes after post)

well before this happened my mom said yes. and it really seems as if nothing happened. my dads in the living room watching t.v my mom is doing dishes and my sis is just running errands.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Everyone in the family is saddened by a loved one’s loss. So for now, maybe you can wait for the right timing to ask about it formally. I’m sure they know that you prioritize the funeral.

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