Love help: my dad left my mum n me, when i was 2 months..(17 years have - Help.com

I don’t think anyone could blame you for feeling angry at your fathers family, but what your mom is tring to teach you is important. she is saying to you that in all the paths you take in life what ever people do to you, it is better to forgive them then to hate and hold bitterness. that’s a hard one to learn.. although your feelings are very valid and perfectly natural, it would be better if you let go of your hate because who are you really hurting by hateing your fathers family. (they don’t feel your hate) only you truly feel your hate! it’s a great lession your mother is giving you. you have a good mom you should let go of the hate.. but never let go of the love you and your mom share!!!

I couldn’t have said it better.

Hello, the reason why you have odd feeling against your dad could be due to the fact that he left and never did protect you and your mom from his family. I could not blame for that.

You are very fortunate to have a wonderful mom and i guess concentrate more on the gift given to you which goodness and humility rather than putting effort on hating those that do not like to be cared for.

You have the best mother in the world! :o)

elvira wrote:
~lilies~, thnxx…i know what u all mean about not hating, n that its much better to love…from now on…i’ll try not to hate them anymore…its going to b hard, very hard, but i have to try.

That is a very good way to put it. It is a challenge on your part. But when love and respect mix, you would never go wrong. Hugs! :o)

I can understand that; I also agree with lilies; from what you have said you have every right to hate your dad and his family but think of how great it would be if you didn’t have to carrie around the hate any more. make sure your feelings are expressed and give yourself permission not to hate them any more. (not that you like them or anything) you just accept that what they did and who they are is wrong and let it go. it will take time! if you need help you know where to come.

I’m sure you can.. I’m going through alot of that too right now. letting go is not easy at all. I have a dude that lives next door and I hate him.. it takes everything that’s in me not to do the most horrable things to him. he is just luck I am nice!!!

elvira wrote:
:D thnxx

From how you are sounding in this post, looks like your mom is really doing a good job! Nice attitude rings a bell!

You are welcome! :)