friends help: I need some motivation.

virgin_queen

Boulder, CO, US

I need some motivation.

I was “dumped” by a guy over a year ago. Though I’ve been on dates with more than one guy since then, I still think about my ex often. I miss him a lot…we had a great connection–we were friends. I’ve been holding on to the past for so long, and I need some motivation to move on and get over him. Any ideas?

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crazyto 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

Maybe you guys could be friends… if not, maybe telling him how you feel will make it seem a little better

Help me with: ok, so i’m completely out of it when it comes to guys.

virgin_queen 1 #
Boulder, CO, US | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Probably should have included this…but he just started up a relationship with the girl he originally broke up with me for. Again (second time). So speaking with him would not only be awkward/uncomfortable, it would be really badly timed hehe.

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crazyto 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

oh ouch…. hmm…. maybe just getting a friend to listen would help. I always feel better after venting or crying to my friends.

Help me with: ok, so i’m completely out of it when it comes to guys.

idiocyinbubbles 12 #
Whittier, CA, US | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

probably the easiest way to get over him would be to not have him in your life anymore? and he’ll eventually move out of your thoughts.

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crazyto 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

well theres the saying “out of sight out of mind” but there’s also something like “with the more time sepporated the more fondness grows” but whatever u think. maybe do something like that and just get ditracted

Help me with: ok, so i’m completely out of it when it comes to guys.

crazyto 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

distracted*

Help me with: ok, so i’m completely out of it when it comes to guys.

virgin_queen 1 #
Boulder, CO, US | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Well, that’s the problem. I have not seen this guy in person for almost a year. We “talk” over facebook–about silly, inconsequential things. So it would seem that all my efforts to remove him from my life haven’t really worked…It’s mostly just my perspective on the situation–he’s not doing anything to encourage these feelings.

Help me with: College on-line courses–good or bad?

crazyto 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

that sux try ur best to forget i guess

Help me with: ok, so i’m completely out of it when it comes to guys.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

it sounds to me like you love him more than yourself…when in reality you do not love him you just miss what you had…until you can love yourself and let go you will never be happy…STOP TALKING TO HIM

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

not trying to be harsh just trying to be real with you…i have been there and it sucks…really bad

Help me with: looking for investors who are tired of there job…lots of money to be made…but you have to have money to make

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4 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 13 hours after post)

in my experience you should cut all contact if he doesnt hear from you he may become curious and think about you more often…it worked for me

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3 weeks, 5 days ago (3 months, 3 weeks after post)

I don’t really know if you want to completely get over him. I think it’s a great thing that you always have those nice feelings with you, insted of hating the guy or something. It would be good though, to accept that it has come to an end, aknowledging the positive things you got from the relationship, but putting your energy on thinking forward.

By the way, thanks for your help, your post put a smile on my face.

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