Love help: I was severely burned on 22Dec, 2007 over 27% of my body. - Help.com

Wow, I’m sorry to hear about all of the struggles that you have been through, and that your loved ones have been through. I can’t really answer the question you’ve asked, as I think no one can. Perhaps it would help you if you went to see a counselor or therapist to talk these things through with them. If you’re religious, maybe you could talk to your priest/minister/etc. It just sounds like you could really use someone to talk to about your struggles and worries right now…

I have attended counseling several times. There are things in the world that either trigger it, or it just happens. I really try

What gets triggered? Your PTSD?

Yes, it gets very hard to deal with. Im a Marine, and though I never saw combat, I can really feel for those who suffer from this. It Is so hard.

Those are really hard things to deal with !
Try to be there for her and support eachother as much as you can.
Talk about it, much as you can, if its here or anywhere.
We listen :)

My wife is the air that I breath. She really is. A good woman can and does, help immensely. I cannot imagine her not having been at my bedside for those 2 weeks of pure anguish.

Jeez man…that’s crazy right there. You’re really strong to be like standing up right after all that…man… Do you realize that? Do you give yourself credit for that? I would just wither and die. Yer like a superhuman.

Do you guys talk openly about all this? You and your wife that is? Cause that’s one of the reasons we get frustrated sometimes and say things we don’t mean, because of lack of HONEST communication. Do you talk about her illness? Do you talk about the fire? openly?

I can’t say that I know what you feel like, but I can hear that you are in a lot of pain over all of this. I can also say that you must be a very strong person to have come this far after everything life has put you through. You also seem to be blessed with strong people who support and love you. Maybe these strengths, and others that you have, are your silver lining. Maybe they can remind you of why you fight so hard when you’re feeling weak and tired…

Im so glad for you, you have her. some day the pain will become less.
You will see there are still good people who care, and are willing to pull you through.

Yes we talk about everything, quite a bit. Im no hero, I just want to be a good father/ husband. One who doesnt have all this baggage, lol. My wife is my hero, sometimes I just dont know how she does it. You guys a re great btw. Thank you

well i still think you are a hero if you want to or not :P
I can imagine that you would rather shake it all off.

But let it make you stronger, let it make you an example of those who made it,
regarding of the things that happend.

Its the soul that matters, and yours, as far as i can see, is a good one :)

Ok…you don’t give yourself credit.

You are a hero! dude you sooooooo are!

So there!

Lol, you are a great person for saying that, Ann. I hope life treats you well and thank you.

Yrja, maybe youre right. Im not all gloom and doom all the time, but I do need to maybe focus on a different aspect of this.

sound_tra wrote:
I do need to maybe focus on a different aspect of this.

Now we’re talking! Think about it.

Have to go now. Ye can talk to me, shout me whatever…anytime tra.

Try and be nice to yerself a bit. Yer doing a lot of things RIGHT ya know.
Yrja

Maybe you can talk to people who’ve been true the same, maybe you allready have.

Or talk to schools about giving a lecture about it (when you are ready or willing to)how you feel and that life is worthwhile in any way or form.

Maybe you can read this :

http://help.com/post/153637-i-would-l…

maybe it helps :)

she is a member as well.

She must be such a strong person i cant even imagine.

annlovestars wrote:
Maybe you can talk to people who’ve been true the same, maybe you allready have.Or talk to schools about giving a lecture about it (when you are ready or willing to)how you feel and that life is worthwhile in any way or form.

hope i did offend you by this, maybe this is something you would really hate doing :P

You didnt offend me at all, its a tough issue, with tough talking. What you have said makes sense, and I dont think thats a bad idea at all. In fact, I could very well arrange this at the very school I attended. I will read your link, thank you.

haha reading my link isnt a must haha, its just out there :)

oww haha XD
You meant the other, i thought you meant the one with lollipop ..
guess im a bit tired -lol-

lol, I wanted to read it. I wish the best for that woman. Im going to go….I thank you for your time, and honestly, I have a much better outlook on this. I know ill have lows, but my wife and I can never stop trying for the highs. Hope to see you on here again…take care:)

Yes welcome back anytime, there is always someone here to talk if you need to :)

Your story reminds me of Simon Weston,a British soldier who was terribly burnt in the Falklands conflict.He has been a pure inspiration to thousands of people all over the world.He has helped thousands of people like yourself.Look him up,i know he can help you.He’ll also help you to help other people.Very best of luck to you and your family. Simon Weston Trust/

So sorry to hear of all you’ve been through, and the many other worries you have on your mind about loved ones!! I’m sure it IS going to take some time to get past the nightmare you’ve been through, but you will heal again and regain your strength to cope with the many other worries too. Sometimes life seems so very unfair, and all you see is bad things happening every which way… but hang on, it will get better again. The important thing is you are still here, you will get stronger again, and you will be here to hold the hands of your loved ones as they cope with life’s ups and downs too. I’m wishing great improvements for all of you… and the sun WILL shine again.

Semper Fi, brother. I’m also a veteran Marine. I never saw combat either but last November my son died in his sleep. He went to bed and never woke up. It was a week before his fourth birthday. I still can’t sleep. I’m sure it’s a form of PTSD as well. It does get better day by day but every once in a while something triggers it. I can’t sleep tonight because every time my head hits the pillow I relive finding him that morning. I’m not sure if you’ve been around dead bodies, but it’s not pleasant, not to mention that it was my son. My wife and I have been fighting more, just happened earlier today. It get angry often. Anyway, I don’t know what to tell you, brother. That’s life, I guess, **** happens. I’m having trouble finding the will to go on, too. Seek what help you can. Counseling helps for some people. Hell, my dad was a Korean vet. He had nightmares for years all the way into the ’90s. I don’t think it bothers him too much any more, really. But that was 40 solid years of living with the pain of PTSD, not a bright outlook I suppose. But we’re Marines, keep your left foot forward and your head up. Eventually, we’ll hit the top of the hill and then it’ll be smooth sailing… until the next one at least.

You may also benefit from looking at the story of Sergeant Merlin German for inspiration.

Oh, I am SO sorry to hear this, very sad news. :( I had no idea things were that bad, but how foolish of me. My deepest sympathies to friends and family members.