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I broke up with my ex about 8 months ago.

During our time together he developed strong friendships with all of my good friends (they are all guys too). Now whenever i see my friends, he is always around. Thats fine with me but it is not for my current boyfriend. I understand why he wouldnt want me to be around my ex, however, i still want to be around my friends. i dont know what to do. it causes a lot of problems in my current relationship because i feel like i dont get to see my friends anymore. I cant bring my current boyfriend around them either, because its very awkward with them being so close to my ex and im always afriad that my ex will show up if he is there. what should i do

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Anonymous #
4 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

I know your boyfriend’s feeling. Soon or later he will have to get over it. That or he is not worth your time. Who is more important, your friends or him?

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robertbrenner offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 4 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

You are not responsible for his feelings. if he can’t hang with it as it is, you can’t hang with not being who you are. always focus on you and what you want. if you are not the center of your universe, you are riding someone else’s merry-go-round.

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xoxo2bambam2oxo offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Ashburn, VA, US | 4 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

robertbrenner wrote:
you are not responsible for his feelings. if he can’t hang with it as it is, you can’t hang with not being who you are. always focus on you and what you want. if you are not the center of your universe, you are riding someone else’s merry-go-round.

Love that comment!

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littlenick offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 174 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

robertbrenner wrote:
you are not responsible for his feelings. if he can’t hang with it as it is, you can’t hang with not being who you are. always focus on you and what you want. if you are not the center of your universe, you are riding someone else’s merry-go-round.

Excellent!!!

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