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I have been in an almost exact situation. My parents split when I was young and I lived with my dad, difference was though he didn’t want me living with my mum he hated her but I loved her so when I was thirteen I ran away from home to live with her-BIG MISTAKE!! The stress that comes with running away is just too much to handle at such a young age and it only caused worry to all parties involved. Stay where you are until you are a bit older, have a think about who you would rather live with don’t make the same mistakes I did running away is just not a good option it really isn’t.

Running away will only take you away from the problem and it will still be there no matter where you go. I feel for you because I think I know what you are going through.
Your family doesn’t seem like a family anymore and it sucks and it hurts really bad. I hope that you have a really good teacher and counselor in your school. It is a lot easier to talk to someone who knows you and is not involved emotionally like your parents. It is easier for parents to listen to a teacher or a counselor then it is for them to listen to you right now because they have pent up feelings. Talk to your teacher and counselor and see if they will talk to your parents. I know you want to do this yourself but it is hard for each one of you to see the problems that each other has and it is tough for parents to listen because they feel that you don’t understand their problems. What do you think about what I just said?

Hi, growing up is very challenging. like one has to balance school, friends, family and other things you have around you. But there are many things that young people like you should attend to and that is to be a little patient with stuff going on. Running away from problems would worsen the situation. When you run away, you would not have anyone to turn to and so you might just find yourself in the cold streets. And that would be a very sad scene.

You will have a better understanding on things some years from now. Your parents might have done decisions which must have negatively affected you, but parents are humans and they make a lot of mistakes.

So take it easy, talk to a teacher or an adult that you trust so you can express your thoughts on these matter. take care.

i am going thru a sim sit my mom just married this guy who i dont like and my dad is already married to sum1 i dont like but running away wasnt really the answer for me i just stepped back an looked at it from their point of veiw they both love you and want you with them all you have to do is try it with each one over the summer or something like that so that u figure it all out ….but good luck hun
u’ll figure it out

My advice is don’t run away… let your parents make the decision for now as to which of them you should stay with. Believe me, you are better off with your own family than strangers… and even though you do not feel close to either of them right now, this could be a good thing for you to get to know your family better. It WILL be more comfortable than with some complete strangers. They love you, you’re their child!!

I once ran away, and it was the dumbest thing I ever did really. I returned home after a couple of days, and it nearly killed my mother when I was missing. You need your family right now. The time will come soon enough for you to be out on your own, with a place of your own choosing… but for now, let one of them take care of you and provide for you till you’re an adult.

Hang in there, let THEM figure out the best place right now since you have no real preference at this point, and be open to the idea of getting closer to whichever one it is and settling in for just a few more years. You will find a new routine and a new life once you settle in. It will all work out fine… try not to worry.