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Im just going to start out and say…Even though Idk you…I love you…

Maybe you should take a vacation and meet someone new. Or go to a beach and meet someone…And if its hard…Just practice…I guess..Idk sorry. All I have is meet someone new but if that is hard idk what else to say

This is kind of random but…When I get 20 I want to have a child…I think 20 is a perfect age! All of my friends disagree with me! I say that because when my child is 10 and starts to grow up! I will be 30 and still young enough to spend time with my child and either way if its a boy or a girl my first child is going to be named Erin or Aaron…I LOVE THAT NAME!

It sounds like we’re in a similar boat. Like you I don’t know what to do except to just wait and see what happens. You don’t want to let your feelings and emotions get in the way of school or your job, because if you don’t do well you’ll have wasted your time and money on it. I still like the girl that I’m having problems with, but it’s not something that me or you, should let the rest of my life go sour over.

I also know what you mean about finding people to be friends with. I have a hard time talking to people so when I actually do I worry about everything that I say. So I have problems with getting friends as well.

Although you shouldn’t be worrying about what the summer will be like. You should be worrying about what you’re going to do for the rest of today and tomorrow, not way ahead in the future. You need to “live for today” everyday.

I look at myself and say, “I’m only 18 and I’m worrying about how my life will be because I lost my best friend and the person I liked nine months ago in the same moment?” That’s the reason I posted my problem. So I could find out how to not worry about it and move on. As long as you have one friend that you can trust everything to, you’ll be fine. So next time you go out to the woods, enjoy the walk and know that there is nothing to worry about.

If you want to contact me about anything, my e-mail is (email removed)

In response to your question. I wouldn’t exactly say she is super good looking, but I would say that I like her more for her personality. To me looks aren’t everything, It’s more of how the person acts and responds to you. After things happened I realized that I wasn’t ready for a, more than friend relationship. Seeing how I responded to how she did, proved it.
Although when it comes to meeting other people. I just don’t know what to say, even with friends. I usually just wait for someone to say something about anything I can respond to, and then say it.
In some ways though, I do hope that things get, either better with her, or that I can somehow meet someone new so I won’t think about it as much.
(hope to hear from you soon.)

I am so sorry..and trust me I know how you feel. I cant even focus on my work right now because of my relationship problems. What you need to do is keep yourself busy. Lean on what friends you have, family and whatever else you like to do. ITs really hard when you fall hard and fast for someone and things dont work out..trust me, i know this. Dont let things get you down..whatever will be will be and things will work out the way that they are supposed to. Just remember to lean on the ppl that you can..thats what they are there for!!

at the meantime just hang out more with your friends go for drinks or sports or whateva. i tried doing that it was better for temporary basis

It really is so hard to see someone you really care about with another person. But honestly, you cant give up in school. What are you majoring in? Who knows, if you do good and get into the business you’ll meet someone new, or if she isn’t too serious with him then you’ll have a good chance. Do you talk to her often? And have you told her how you feel? Just don’t give up, there’s hope for everything

Its really easy to lose focus, because of a girl. I would know since i do it a lot. you need to talk to her and just tell her how you feel so you can move on. just tell her. you need to let it out. if you told her and are stuck on her then you need to get away from her.

Look marionms, I know exactly how you feel. I’m stuck in a very similar situation.
From what I read on your post it sounds like she likes you a lot. Leading you on three times in the past she must have some slight “more than a friend” feelings towards you, but keeps holding back. Why? becuz she’s young and can’t see herself being fully committed to somebody yet and she knows YOU would commit..I mean you’ve proved it in the past for three years just by sticking with her. She probably is not ready to settle with just one guy so she’s playing the field. Once she messes around with a few jerky guys and things fall apart she’ll wake up. I think if you hang in there one day she’s gonna realize your the guy for her. I’ve always been told that really good friends or best friends make the best partners. I’ve also read lots of success stories on this, so everythings not hopeless marionms!

If you need anything just hit me up i will listen.