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I think the stress might be the cause and the angriness the effect. Stress makes life suck. Try to figure out what’s causing that stress (besides the angriness, of course).
When we are hurt, sometimes it’s natural to want to hurt in exchange.
Human Nature. is this happening at work or home?
When I’m stressed out, I find that talking to someone (a real-life someone), really going into detail about the problem, really helps, just so I know I don’t have to bear the burden alone. I don’t know if this’ll work for you, but hey.
Verbal reflexes are hard to hold back.
However at home, it’s a different ball-game.
it’s your personal space as well and you want the same respect, i’d assume, as well.
Your not a psychic either.
It’s gonna take the cooperation of your mother to help you achieve a medium.
a foot needs to be put down, but in a different approach.
I had to use reverse psychology w/ my mom and it worked great.
she was very overbearing.
I guess that’s why I’ve got half-sleeves of tattoos :) j/k
I misunderstood you.
I don’t know why but I’ve caught myself several times doing that with my ol’ man.
sometimes, my mom tells me it’s just hormones but it’s more than that…
I’d have to know the recent scenario to understand it better.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rank your current dispute?
Did you start it or did he?
Would you consider yourself to be someone who is naturally ambitious and energetic, but currently is either not acting on those ambitions, or is unable to begin bring your ambitions to fruition? (this is a total guess, but just a feeling I had).
i find the best thing to do is to go out buy a box of ice-cream and eat it or a lot. :) then after consulting my-self (making sure my heart is right) i go and talk with the person that has offended me. trust me it works. but yeah try thats all you have to do is try to be understanding then if you say something mean back then just cover up your mouth real quick and say im sorry i didn’t mean to say that.
oic. maybe you were both tired and hearing things (or at least one of you)
i’d feel hurt too.
sometimes wild, stray thoughts occur in peoples heads and instead of talking about it, things like this happen.
They errupt after a period of dwelling.
you can’t help that he felt this way w/out your knowledge.
but it’s hard to retain yourself when you feel as though you have to defend yourself.
maybe, if you an afford it, go on vacation. a smal vacation, like a weekend getaway.
Do you feel restrained by your work?
Do you take it home with you sometimes?
I understand completely.
That’s great that you enjoy work, too.
a true rarity.
to give an honest and tangible solution to your problem…
if he starts it, and it’s a situation where you feel it’s necessary to put up a defense, just say: “i’m not walking away from this conversation, but I’m leaving you with some time to think about what you just said.” In a calm manner.
if you feel as though your getting on a roll, STOP.
it’s hard but catch yourself.
we make mistakes.
You’re a nice person.
i know because you listened to my problem one time on an anonymous post and gave me great advice.Thank You.
instead of focusing on what happened…what could you do to make this better?
Good Night, dear.
Why waste time being miserable, right?
I like you :-) And that last comment of yours really gives a good picture of who you are, and who your hubby is in love with. You know what you should, and, (I know this is a bit cliche, but it IS true) your hubby will forgive and forget, and just be happy for the hug.
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When someone says angry words,
but I know it’s because they’re hurting inside, why do I say angry words back and push them further away when that’s not what I want? Why do I feel most stressed in the evenings? Why am I up in the middle of the night? Help!
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