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well sometimes when i cant get my mom to listen im mean to her and ill tell her “see it doesnt feel very nice does it, im always tring my hardest to be good to you but you treat me poorly, and now that the table is turned you dont like it do you?” or you can try moving out… find your own place before you create more resentment toward your mom

Honestly, if you can, I’d move out of that house. It sounds like your mother isn’t helping your emotional situation, and is in fact making it worse. The situation in that house is bad, and if I were you I’d get away from it ASAP. Hope this helps.

It does sound like you’re probably old enough to move out. Please do try to see a counselor about hurting yourself. It’s a very slippery slope and can get out of control very fast. Several members here have experience with it.

I have been in a situation like that before.
Like what sansceriph said it can get out of control very easily.
Try talking to a professional about it, we are here to help but sometimes people need someone to give them professional advice.

What specifically do you mean by:

“I’ve started hurting myself, privately.”

Are you in college now? Working? Many times mothers will feel closer to their daughters after a boyfriend has mistreated her. The all men become the ‘enemy’ for a while…at least until the daughter finds another guy to distract herself with.

I do recommend talking to a counselor… We can’t make our parents care the way we need them to. And coping by self injuring will just delay finding a way through this that will allow you to grow as a person.

I’ll leave a site here that gives alternatives to try rather than cutting, if that is your method of choice (but check it out anyway if not~it’s pretty informative)

http://cryingtoangels.bravehost.com/s…

This other one is good to check out also
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_…

Let us know what’s up.

If talking to your mom about it doesn’t work, then the only positive thing I could think of doing would be to move in with your dad. A confrontation with her would probably result in an argument, judging from what you’ve said.

Hurting yourself isn’t going to solve your problems; as for “demanding that she helps you with your problems,” thats a mother’s job. If she took on the job of being a mother (twice), but had to wait for one of her daughters to attempt suicide to start caring enough to talk, then it sounds like she’s the one in need of the professional help, not you. You’ve done nothing but played your role as her daughter.

Like I said, move in with your father if you can. It sounds like it could help you out, and maybe it would be a wake-up call for her.

Have you thought about moving out? Or moving in with your dad?

It sounds like your mom is taking her feelings out on you. She has to worry about your sister and her fragile state, and probably says things to you that she wishes she could say to your sister. None of it is right, and you shouldnt hurt yourself b/c of her. It is a tough habit to break.

http://help.com/post/145067-confessio… link is if your thinking about or started cutting. I hope it helps you sweetie

Your welcome,but Just to hear the hope in your words is enough thanks.Good Luck :)

sounds like your mother may be suffering as well and sorry to say but your problems may appear trivial in her mind at this piont ,not to say they are but by comparison maybe so,perhaps you could ask her if she has anything she would like help with ,that you love her and she can talk with you anytime she need a friend or an ear this may break the ice wall between you and she may feel she can offer a bit more of herself for you when you need her

at this point i dont believe harming yourself will focus her attention it may give her more stress and therfore less time for you,whats is lacking is love and you can help bring that back help promote it,dont destroy it by selfish physical abuse ,that can never solve anything,two wrongs dont make a right

Be very proud of who you are….. take care of yourself. You can not change how your mother feels. Later on, you may find out more about what is going on with her, but, it sounds like you have exhausted your resources for now. So, quit trying to reach her, and take care of you.

Try to not hold it against her, because that will do not good, for either of you, try to be as nice as you can with her, and with your sister. If you can avoid arguements… you are way ahead. They are never pleasant for any one.

I did not read the other posts yet, but, it sounds like you are in your late teens, probably, so, it shouldn’t be very long before you can be out on your own. If you can leave with the best feeling possible for the family the better off you will be.

Nothing can ever replace family, no matter how bad it gets. We are stuck with each other. Even if you are gone, they will be in your memory, so, try to avoid any trouble, if at all possible. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you, and you will want to visit your family so try not to burn any bridges.

Get some support from somewhere that is healthy, a school counselor, a pastor, a counselor, a friendly aunt, a grandmother who understands, or just a very good friend.

It is good that you came here, you will meet many very nice and helpful people on here, and can become good friends with many. They offer a whole community full of support and ideas, just keep posting and reading posts, I think you will be very glad you found this site.

Plese STOP HURTING YOURSELF….. RIGHT NOW…..

This will do no……….good. Nada….. Zilch…… Nothing…… good will come of this. NOTHING……….

Find constructive ways of helping yourself, and your situation. Do some research online, seeing how much info. you can find on the issues you are dealing with. It will take your mind off your problems, and give you some very good insight.

Count your blessings every night…… one by one… name them off, and soon you will be feeling much better….

Blessings…..