sleep help: How do I stop taking on too much?

fengshuisweetheart

How do I stop taking on too much?

I am sitting here paralyzed by the amount of projects/work I have to complete, and it is my own fault. I once again took on way too much responsibility for a mom of 3 yr old twins.

It’s like I have to prove that being a mom does not affect my ability to be stellar at work— even if it requires that I get only a couple hour of sleep.

I’m going to bed, since I am so overwhelmed I do not know where to start, hoping that morning gives me fresh energy, but if you have any advice, I’ll check it out in the morning.

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sansceriph 585 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Just say no to too much. Being a mom is part of who you are now. Of course work is important, but sometimes you have to prioritize. I make a list:
1. Things that are urgent
2. Things that are important
3. Things that are urgent and important

Then attack them in reverse order.

crazy711mdlay 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

deep breaths, you have to remind yourself internaly that your worth is not quantitative its qualitative, so dont try to carry too much at a time; recall that being a mom is a full time job. finish what youve taken on and then next time you want to take on more work step back and prioritize how you will tackle the job

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Krabby127 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

Just relax and take some time off every now and then. If things are becoming way too stressful, hire a babysitter one night and just go oof to a relaxing spa or something and take some time to settle down. If all else fails, I’d suggest hiring a nanny to help out. It would also give you someon to talk to when ypu’re troubled.

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pillsburydogir 0 #
Chandler, AZ, US | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 42 minutes after post)

“I once again took on way too much responsibility for a mom of 3 yr old twins.”

Stop doing that. It is just way too much and you know it. Your killing yourself by OVER working yourself is NOT doing any good for yourself, your kids, your husband. It is just stressing/overwhelming you. You must learn to be “happy with what you have” except in a lesser amount of work. It is too much! I have a 3.5 year old myself (and only 1… you have 2.) Give yourself a break mama!

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Patric1 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

You don’t have top prove anything - mum always said the best years of a child’s life - for mum - are the early years and once they are over, they are over. You cannot go back and recapture. Enjoy your little ones now - they will soon be wanting your car, your money, your house for parties and then they will leave home:D
Throw out the projects and be a mum.

ms.goodytwoshoe 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 6 days after post)

You have to learn to say no.

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MidnightLillu 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (1 month, 4 weeks after post)

If you feel that you take on too much, close your eyes. Do you understand, there are none of take after you in our Universal? You are unique and your life belongs only you! Do you understand you live only ONCE???

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marco271001 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 days, 22 hours ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Is it important to you that you stay in exactly the same job/field that you are in now? If you do plan to stay there, its it truly possible for you to reasonably reduce your responsibilities? In other words, is it just that YOU are demanding too much of YOURSELF, or could it be that the people around you at your job are putting these demands on you? If the pressure is part fo the work environment and not something that you can change, you might want to consider a move — for your sake and the kids’!

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fengshuisweetheart 1 #
Grand Rapids, MI, US | 3 days ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Good point Marco, and I think it may be both– that I expect a lot of myself and feel I am not doing well unless I am overdoing. And at the same time, people like folks like me to work for them because they know that they can rely on us to get things done.

I did go in to work after I made his post and tell my immediate supervisor that I was not going to take on any more extra projects, committees, etc. And so far I am doing pretty well at that.

We’ll see how the next coulpe of months go. IF I can continue to say no, I will stay, but iof not, you and MIdnightLillu are right- it is only fair to my kids an I to think aout our time.

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