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Okay where to start…

I have a serious problem… I have two habits that together can equal disaster. The first is that I’m a private person and rarely talk about myself… the second is I bottle up my emotions. The scary thing is I’ve gotten so good at it that I have been keeping troubles away from my parents for over a year now… you see I’m failing my classes at college and it started a year ago. to be honest I’ve never had a real drive for my major, but I’ve been afraid to tell my parents that because I don’t want to let them down… problem is now I’ve lost my drive for school completely and I’ve started to fallen a depression… I keep trying to tell my parents… but I can never actually get the words across to them. I’ve always had a hard time talking to my parents about school and social life since as far as I can remember… I always have had trouble telling my parents stuff and now I’m about to be kicked out of college due to low grades… yet I find myself thinking of ways to trick them into thinking I’m still attending college… can someone help me on good ways to break the news to my parents please?

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elysium offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 114 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

Just tell them that you have been struggling and that you may fail college. If you have a decent set of parents they will understand. Besides if you lie to them and they find out in the future, they will be ashamed that you lied to them.

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Blumpkinhead offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

Just+tell+them.+They%27ll+find+out+eventually%2C+and+it+would+be+better+to+ tell+them+now+while+there+is+still+a+chance+of+fixing+things.

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7 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

I’m in the exact same situation and i’m the same way. I think it would be easier to give them hints about it before coming all out with it at once. Thinking it would be much easier that way. Or at least thats what i plan on doing.

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 40 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Well, the first thing is you have to come to grips as to why you can’t talk to your parents. Is is mostly your mom? or your Dad? Does your mom have a way of making you feel like you are never good enough? Does your dad have no problem letting you know how much you disappoint him? Take a look at your parents and your relationship with them… then look at their relationship together. They pretty much treat each other the same way they treat you don’t they? Take an inventory for every time they’ve hurt you. What you have to do is overcome the fear that they have instilled in you. I’m not saying they don’t love you, or that you don’t love them… I’m sure there is plenty of love around. But don’t get it confused with that bull crap kinda love where you never have to say you’re sorry. Deal with the emotions you feel that make you want to cry RIGHT NOW. Once you bring those feelings to the night of day… they will no longer be hiding in the shadows, and you will be able to move past them unafraid… you will be able to tell your parents everything.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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