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About a week ago I posted a post about my mom being adopted and how I would like to find her bio.

Father, Well I think I have found him. I just went on to google and found his number and address. But I don’t know what to say can someone please help me! I would be his granddaughter so I don’t know what to say. I don’t want to scare him off and have him hang up the phone on me so what do I do!

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Have you spoken to your mother about this?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

yes I have but she live in cal. and I would have her call him but she is mute so it is a problem. I want to call him but I just don’t know what to say

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

Well… you’re just going to have to take the plunge, I think. Maybe something like

“Hi, I promise you I’m not trying to get your money or anything, but… I’m your granddaughter”

On second thoughts, no… you’re right, this is hard. What were you thinking of saying, or don’t you have any ideas at all?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

You have to introduce a 3rd party - a neutral person to make the initial call - remember anyone could be listening - he could be on speaker phone. Get an intermediary - they do exist to help with this. Sometimes people start by writing a letter which gets passed on by the middle man - this prepares everyone without a complete shock - tread carefully

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

Something like this is what I mean
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LWV California Voter. Juvenile Justice in California. Reunion mediation is also a new field. Mediation is sometimes used when attempts for adoptive children and their birth parents to find each other reach the …
ca.lwv.org/voter/jj/24adoption.html - 9k - Cached - Similar pages

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (2 hours after post)

Or even these people might steer you in the right direction - you need an expert here

Southern California Arbitration Mediation and Conflict Resolution … Southern California Arbitration Mediation and Conflict Resolution : Settle it ….. in the region will be attending too, so it will very much be a reunion. …
www.negotiationlawblog.com/ - 113k - Cached - Similar pages

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