social help: How do I break the news to someone I’m autistic who completely refused to believe I had it before I was diagnosed?

spiritedsoul

Sandgate, G5, GB

How do I break the news to someone I’m autistic who completely refused to believe I had it before I was diagnosed?

She said there was no chance of me having it and strongly believed her opinion was right, refusing to think otherwise. I found it hurtful when I was being tested for it because I found her behaviour completely unsupportive. I think it may be important I confide in her about it because she helps people like me get into employment as shes like a social worker who works with people who experienced mental illness. my condition will most likely affect what job ill get.

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Mas1st 339 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Doubt it will affect much at all you aren’t exactly low functioning so if you dont mention it they will probably never notice. Anyway show her the letter you got to confirm it or get one sent to her by your GP

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Such diagnosis, why is it important. You lived somehow before it, why would anything have to change after?

spiritedsoul 39 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 5 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

I have lived before the diagnosis but my condition has affected my life a lot. I got bullied badly at school because I was different, failed two acedemic years because of not having the right support and cudve done better at school. I have struggled with building relationships, friendships and been a lot whilst my siblings have gone off living their lives Ive struggled tremendously which meant living a lone and being a lone feeling isolated. Ive struggled getting a part time job because struggle to use initiative and adapt to being in new environments. I cant handle coping being in areas i don’t know. I struggle with independance and would find it too hard to live on my own.
so many people think im fine but so FEW understand what its like. its so hard.

Help me with: I have a driving test soon and I feel like I’m going to fail even though my driving instructor seems convinced I’ll pass.

spiritedsoul 39 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 5 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

mas1s wrote:
Doubt it will affect much at all you aren’t exactly low functioning so if you dont mention it they will probably never notice. Anyway show her the letter you got to confirm it or get one sent to her by your GP

Ill probably do that.

Help me with: I have a driving test soon and I feel like I’m going to fail even though my driving instructor seems convinced I’ll pass.

Anonymous #
5 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

My best advice is to tell the person gently, then walk away. If they were unsupportive before, it is very unlikely that an official diagnosis will improve their attitude. Some people just lack empathy.

You need to surround yourself with people who are more supportive. There are other people who can help you get a job, and other people who will believe you when you tell them there is something wrong without downplaying your perceptions.

Mas1st 339 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

Read about this guy who joined the US army and some of the other posts might interest you
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Mas1st 339 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

css-online.org send you a free dvd

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sans-sans 225 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Florence I had no idea you are autistic. I think mai1s is right, show her something in writing from the doctor. Not everyone with autism is non-communicative. Yours is probably a mild case. Maybe she doesn’t realize that it’s non an all-or-nothing disease. There are people in between who are still affected. Anyway I wish you the best. You’re always so sweet and helpful to people in their posts.

spiritedsoul 39 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

where is mai1 gone? their reply was useful!

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