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please give me good ideas on how set my life out to believe I can live life perfectly without a bloke. because I think i know someone who was better off when he planned to not be with someone and the unexpectancy for it made him be with her in that kind of sense. so i just not want to worry, i don;t want to hold myself back in life!
Just live life. The only reason it was unexpected was because he wasn’t expecting it. But you will be so it won’t work.
how would expecting it make it not work? if thats what u mean by “but you will be so it won;t work”?
how long have you been single
If you have to think of ways to live without a bloke, that means you need or want blokes. The trick is not having to think about it or even thinking about it and sooner or later you will be able to do it. It might be because you are bloddy frustrated with all the blokes you know and think that if you actually think or figure out how to live without them, you’ll do it. That’s not the case. Because sooner or later the right bloke will come along and you’ll be happy again with another bloke and will be singing their praises. Don’t think or try to live without blokes. Just go on living life the way you normally live it and happyness with or without a bloke will come to you. You like blokes. From your avatar, I can tell you are a happy-go-lucky type of girl. And, may I say you are georgeous! Don’t plan your life around a bloke. Become selfsufficient so you don’t depend on anyone bloke for your live to be life. The more you think about how to live without blokes, the less you will be able to do it. Look around you. Unless you were to live in an island or another planet where there are no blokes around, then you could live without a bloke in your life. And then, you would be thinking ” I wish I had a bloke to lean on, to love me, to whisper sweetnothings in my ear, to touch me in those secret places I like to be touched, to hold me in his arms, to be able to look into his eyes and know that I am the one whe cares about and loves. So you see, it’s very complicated. It’s not that simple. Go on about your life and live it, happily. You will find the way.
thanks littlenick
” Just go on living life the way you normally live it and happyness with or without a bloke will come to you.” thats what I need.
“Become selfsufficient so you don’t depend on anyone bloke for your live to be life. ” this is what i struggle working on!
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well, there are plenty of people who can cope on their own! but we all do need love, people get it in different ways i get.
and what about lezbiens and gays?! lol
i guess i do not to be more grateful, but the problem is most the time i aint. i just seem to want more from life.
Enjoy the life that you have now. With or without a bloke, life will figure out itself. And, when it does you will realize that trying to live without a bloke was foolish. Don’t overanalyze it. Just enjoy your blooddy life. I wish I was there to help you enjoy it; we would make one heck of a pair.
oh cool little nick! lol
well, i just want to be able to live without one because i never seem to get any so i thought better to live life better copying nd accepting that! that ill be a loner for a long time or for the rest of my life!
Well, I’m late arriving to this post, but I think littlenick and the others said it well:
” Just go on living life the way you normally live it and happyness with or without a bloke will come to you.”
“Become selfsufficient so you don’t depend on any one bloke for your live to be life. ”
Yep, just carry on being yourself, do what you enjoy and live!! You really don’t need a guy to be happy… it took me a long time to learn that, but some of the best times I had were actually WITHOUT the headache of having a guy… LOL. I loved my time alone in my first apartment. Much to my surprise, when I got divorced and was on my own again, it felt really good too… so you see, there is much to be said for freedom and living for yourself. Being alone is better than a bad relationship too. When the right guy comes along, he only adds to the enjoyment of life you are already having on your own… and if he doesn’t you will be just fine too!!
(But I do suspect that if you decide you WANT a guy in your life, you will certainly be able to find them!!)
“You really don’t need a guy to be happy… it took me a long time to learn that” well, im still in the process of learning that!
lol
i was with someone who treated me bad but it wasn;t a relationship really, he thought it was but i told the police. stopped him trying to convince me to get back with him.
i keep thinking wanting a guy would drive them away! so i want to think i don;t want one!
LOL… I see!!! :) Well… I suppose being hard to get is attractive to some guys, but then once they “get” you (to date them) I think you might need to let them know you like them… at least a little !! ;) That way their efforts are appreciated!
really cattail? let them know? thats a good idea. what good ways are there of doing that? id be too embarrassed just going up to them and say “i like you!” lol haha
and thanks for that cattail, maybe i should appreciate efforts more, thats prob where id been going wrong a bit. im glad i know now.
Well, you probably don’t even have to SAY it right away… but you know, little ways you can show you appreciate them, thank them for whatever they did (bought you dinner?)… say you had a good time… laugh at their jokes… LOL… so they can go home and say “I think she liked me!” :)
yeah thats a good idea. i think thats prob where ive had troubles with, appreciating what they’d done for me. i guess it would matter to them that their efforts are appreicated?
Yeah… guys can be shy about asking a girl out too, so they need some reassurance that you like them once they make the effort!! :)
It encourages them to continue!!
yeah :) hehe i noticed that lol
but it is pretty obvious one, though i didn;t realise! lol
I guess the best thing is to try to make them feel comfortable and not awkward around you, be easy to talk with, fun…. :) Interested in them!
how can i make them feel comfortable if im not comfortable and shy????lol
Ahh… it’s the best part. You worry about how nervous THEY must be and try to make them feel comfortable with whatever they say, etc., and you suddenly forget about feeling nervous yourself!!!
really? thats cool. i don’t hink about them being nervous. on concentrate too much what goes through my mind!
It really does work if you just focus on making THEM feel more at ease… :)
really? focus on their feelings?
Yep… just figure they are probably a little nervous and so try to help them through that…. try to make things easy and un-awkward for them… and in the process you are no longer nervous yourself, ’cause you’re thinking more about how they’re feeling instead of yourself!!
true. i always assume they aren;t nervous though
They are!!! :) Well most of them are!!! Doesn’t hurt either which way, just trying to make things comfortable for them has a great effect all around! :)
really?
i guess thats true. didn;t think they;d be nervous most the time.
Sure!! :) Guys get nervous around a girl they like, especially the first time they try to get a date with her!! They are so worried about getting you to like them and giving you a good time, and what they should/shouldn’t do…. so reassure a guy that you had a good time, just try to make him feel at ease… act interested in things about him, what his hobbies are, what he thinks about various things…
I shouldn’t say “act interested”… hopefully just really be interested in learning more about the guy if you like him… :D
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