school help: My parents are fighting a lot right now. - Help.com

Best get yourself back in charge of your life then. How old are you?

And how did you pay for the piercings - bear with me I’ll get to the point - just answer this bit

Sing. Sing sing a song. Make it special to last the whole night long.

His parents must be so proud - I know it’s legal but you did know this was going to highly p*ss off your mother at a time when she was stressed didnt you? Was this a little ‘look at me I’m still here Mummy’ shout

Your mum is terrified for your future. something has slipped communication wise in yuor family and it needs fixed. So you got expelled - can I ask what for?

And you can use the word ‘garish’ in context - you are not thick are you?

you don’t have to be attention-seeking to get piercings. It’s actually pretty normal for young people, it’s only some adults that have a problem with it. It has nothing to do with how you are as a person, how you behave, or what your potential is. I wouldn’t worry about the piercings.

But the expulsion is a lot more serious, what did you do?

Maybe you should go out for a walk or something. Call up a friend. Get out for a while.

I’m not judging as a parent - I’m judging as a person who recruits people for a living. Choose between the same qualifications but one has piercings and the other doesnt. I know which one I want my clients looking at and it’s not the metal-head. Sad but true fact of life in the grown up job world - tatoos the same.

What’s the reasoning behind that?

Did you and your Mum used to get on well coz it sounds like you are angry about something there. I wasnt dissing you on ‘garish’ I was complimenting your use of grammar

What drugs are you doing?

Listen I didnt mean to make you mad - I’ll leave the rest of them to it - sorry

How come you had so many absences? Were your mates off school with you, or was it just you? I can’t believe they give you drugs tests in school!

Dear lord, kiddo, you’ve got the entire world’s burdons on your shoulders. You can’t be a perfect child and, as your parents are demonstrating, the certainly can’t be perfect themselves. Your Mum will get over her “embarressment” as soon as you prove to her that you’ve come into your own - right around your junior year of college, if it all works out that way. For the present, she probably has very mixed emotions about her daughter growing up, aside from the fact that she’s arguing with her husband. Your Mom is an adult and she is responsible for HER OWN happiness. She chose your step-dad and, for better or worse, it is her task to make the relationship work. It is your task to be a kid and focus on growing up, finishing high school, finding a career, etc. Don’t stress too much about the world’s problems. As my Mom says, you can’t change the world, you can just tidy up your corner.

PS. My cousin (who’s 14) has a small nose piercing and I think it’s lovely. Don’t let these prudes get you down.

And stay away from the drugs. That only leads to retardedness, regret, and rehab. When I was 17, my uncle, who did his share of boozing, told me that for every live Uncle John, there are at least three dead Uncle Johns. I never forgot that. Keep it in mind the next time you decide to toke up.

Right, don’t worry about it too much. It’s fairly standard fare for people around your age to go off the rails for a bit. Some wait until they’ve left home and are in college to do it. But the vast majority go on to become sorted, productive and responsible citizens. It’s up to you, you can decide to change your behaviour and thus your future at any point you want to. Although, it does become harder to do the more **** your in and the longer you’ve been in it.

So, if you want to change things, best make up your mind and do it sooner. Also, make sure the company that you keep are the best for you.

Parents worry. My dad worried like crazy about me when I was your age. Everything I did he took as a sign that it was all going wrong. And he tried to control things all the more, I left home at 16 because of it all. But it was all a storm in a teacup really. We get on very well now, you wouldn’t be able to guess how it once was. But its probably because I’ve been responsible for myself, put myself through university and I;ve turned out well, despite his worries. I;m sure you’ll be fine and when your mom eventually sees that, you two will also be fine.

OK, JM, you have been a source of stress in your mother’s life! Any parent would be stressed if he or she had a child who made bad grades and got expelled from school. Have you thought about getting your act together a little better and taking some of the stress off her? She’s probably looking at everything you’re doing as a sign of rebellion–like the latest piercings. Yes, I know that being a teenager is stressful, because you’re undergoing all kinds of changes and you’re trying to find out who you are. But, if you will, just try to empathize with your mother, to put yourself in her shoes, and to just think of some ways to relieve her of the stress of worrying about you. You could focus more on your studies, help out more around the house, and just TRY to project a good attitude! You know, JM, attitude is 90 percent of everything you do. The other 10 percent is the actual work that is required. Once upon a time, a train stopped in a certain city, and a man got out. He saw an old man sitting on a bench, and asked, “Say, sir, what kind of town do you have here?” The old man asked, “Well, what kind of town did you come from?” The man answered, “The town I came from had a lot of mean-spirited people who were unfriendly and wouldn’t help each other.” The old man said, “Well, that’s the kind of town we have here.” So the man got back on the train before it pulled out of the depot. A few minutes later another train stopped, and another man got off the train, looked around, and approached the man on the bench. He said to old man, “Sir, I’m looking for a place to establish a new factory for my business. What kind of town do you have here?” The old man asked again, “Well, what kind of town did you come from?” The man answered, “Oh, the town I left had very friendly people who were always helping each other and who were the best neighbors you could ask for.” “I see,” said the old man. “That’s the kind of town we have here, also.”

This isn’t Teh Smackdown. Sheesh.

OK, well first of all, I would like you to go off tomorrow and get a diary and write down all your personal thoughts and questions, and worries, at the end of each weak, sit down with your mother and father and show them your entries, this way there is better communication between each of ye. Now, I want you to ask yourself is there any of the piercings that I wouldn’t mind losing, because maybe she would like you to have fewer piercings. As for your school, I would ask them to take you back or go to some other school (I know you probably have friends in your old school, but there maybe nothing you can do), this shows to your mother that you care about your life and that she has nothing to worry about and that you want to move forward in life and have a good education. As for you parents arguing, there is nothing you can do about the contractor except expain your worries to your parents about it in the aforementioned diary entries.

JesusMurphy wrote:
I read your reply wrong, itsm. I kind of feel like a moron now

But her point was that you do not appear at all moronic. How could such an intelligently motivated person make stupid choices? I’m sure there are whole sections of the library devoted to such a complex issue.

you said your piercings are a good way to express yourself, dude, I have nothing against per icings but get real man, Im a teenager too and you can be ALOT more creative than that, look, express yourself by being nice to your mom, Im that way and it takes all my friends by surprise, they say that it’s crazy that I say I love you to my mom on the phone, so there you go, you can be totally unique that way…billions of people have piercings.

and about your parents, if you know they love each other, than just believe that they will work it out, they are adults and they think of stuff us teenagers don’t and they have ways of figuring stuff out that we never consider. I always tell my parents I don’t enjoy their fighting, it helps me feel better and it helps them control themselves

What I hear from you doing drugs: I love myself more than anyone. I want to be noticed. I try to consider others but I just can’t put them first. What I want and what I do are two different things. I know what would make my mom proud but that is just too difficult. The decisions I am making have gotten me expelled. I don’t understand why I can’t make all my own decisions? Oh ya, and if somethings free I will get as many as I can, the more the better:)

Aww don’t say that you’re a disappointment. Never think that. I always thought I’m a disappointment because hey, you of alll people know my fear of jellybeans, and I want to be an artist rather than what my parents think I should be, and my parents expect me to do so well in school but I just couldn’t be bothered to do so, so if YOU’RE a disappointment, what am I lol
Just never think you’re a disappointment.