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I don’t want to conform to society.
That is the long and short of it! I’m feeling like society is crushing my creativity and pressuring me too much. I’m 16 and doing A levels and now just before exams all the teachers are talking about university courses and jobs which is making me feel more pressured! I want to pursue my dreams but they seem so far away! I would love to be a textile artist/designer but everyone keeps on telling me that i’m not gunna be able to get a job at the end of it, and that doing a degree in textiles is a waste of time. I’ really want to pursue my dreams and get what i want out of my life, but i’m afraid i will make the wrong choices and it will effect the rest of my life!… Maybe i think too much :)
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Chasing your dreams is always a worth while case, even if at the end you fail. But you need to be prepared for it, you need to accept that the odds are not in your favor (that’s how life is) and that if you chase your dreams your putting your self at risk. The question is do you want to take that risk and if you do then go for it ; but if you can’t picture your self failing and living in a van down by the river and still being happy then you might want to reconsider. You’re going to be an adult soon and its these types of things that you need to answer for your self now.
Life is not about conforming or not conforming, its about risk management, everything in life can be boiled down to risk management. Do I talk to that girl or keep my feelings to my self, do I get a degree in textiles or medicine, do I jump of this bridge with a bungee cord or do I pass. Its all risk management.
How much risk does a endeavor carry and how much risk are you willing to live with? If the later is greater then the former then go for it, if it is not then pass.
Your teachers and parents are doing this calculation for you. They know how much risk is in getting the education you want. What they don’t know is how much risk your willing to live with, only you could know that. They error on the side of cousin because they like/love you because they don’t want to see you get hurt and you should think them for that, but complain about it. But you still need to make your own risk calculation.
It’s ironic, that if you don’t want to feel pressured by society, that you let yourself anyway by allowing other’s opinions and comments get to you. If it really doesn’t matter (which it doesn’t), and you want to do whatever you want, don’t even think about it! You’re right, are are thinking too much. Get whatever degree you want. Don’t let others get in the way, because you’re right, society is crushing your creativity and pressuring you too much, and it’s our kind of society that kills the most beautiful parts of the human spirit. Don’t let others words get to you, follow your dreams and do what you want. Let your life be free and don’t calculate the odds, as you only have one life to do it right and only the same amount to screw up.
Its your life your story/book/epic novel, your going to have to write you own story and follow what you want. You might succeed amazingly or fail horribly, know one knows what will happen but at least you would have showed the strong will to follow your dream and live for you. Think of it in context of a movie/book, would you rather watch the protagonist just live life by the rules of others, or would you want to see them going for their dreams fighting an epic struggle and survival for what they want. You should live a interesting life.
Never stop pursuing your dreams! But sometimes you have to follow parallel courses, making a living and your dream:) Follow your heart and listen to your head. You will get there:)
you need to be conscious of how your decisions affect your life..but don’t think that there are limitations only because people tell you to do. you can pursue your dreams as a hobby OR as a job. there are plenty of jobs involving textile art and designers. you could be an art teacher (specializing in that) or you could incorporate your passion into something you wouldn’t hate doing (fashion? film? magazines?) there are options open to you. I know brittish colleges (assuming nationality from the A level comment?) are asking that you already know what you want to do with your life upon entry but seriously just because you know what you love..and what you want to study (which is what you shouldd study) doesn’t mean you knwo how you can apply it to the real world.
Well, there is always the possibility that becoming a textile designer will not give you enough jobs or money to live on; on the other side, becoming someone who always has a job and is paid a fortune may not provide enough satisfaction for you to live on. I think that it comes down to some really hard and long soul searching. What are your talents? What are your dreams, how can you achieve them, and how will you change them along the way if you decide that they are no longer your dreams or they are not working for you?
Ultimately, you have to live your own life… your parents and your teachers cannot live it for you. But, they do have some valuable life experience that they can offer and you can take into consideration. Sit down with some of them and explain how you feel and ask them to tell you more about why they feel the way they do. Maybe it’s more than money… or maybe that’s all it’s about; either way, I think it’d help if you knew where they were coming from. It would also help them to know where you are coming from.
Finally, always remember that your life does not end once you have picked a career path. You can always change - it will take a lot of hard work, but you can do it. Never think that you are trapped forever by anything or anyone… you are in control.
littlenick is right here. You could do something pratical and useful and at the same time do your textile thingy and treat that as a hobby that will get you a qualification too. I am sure there is more to textile designing than textiles designing - would knowing about how to run a business be of an advantage should you be able to follow your dream after education? A greater thing helping the lesser to succeed. I knew what I wanted to do and I knew it wouldn’t make me even the tiniest bit rich, but it was my dream I also didn’t day dream either, so I got my training to follow my dream, then I went to college to learn something that I could use for the rest of my life if my dream failed. I didn’t much care for the other, it was not what I wanted, but it has proved very useful and I could take alsorts of jobs and be good at them. My dream did fail, but that was not for want of trying. It was my health that let me down and you never know about somethings.
Talk to one adviser and one only, one you can trust. Take all your ideas to that person and everything you have discussed with anyone else and see if between the two of you, you can’t come up with a good plan, but the ultimate decision has to be yours. Don’t be a one trick pony.
Thanks everyone, you have all been a great help and i really apreciate it! :) I think i’m gunna hold on to my dreams, but i’m going to be practical and look into something else for a career. Maybe after i have finished my A levels i could do a course in retail management? And it is kinda near to where i want to be! I think i do need to discuss it more and have a think about it but thank you to everyone who has posted, it has not been wasted!
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