life help: I’m an alcoholic. - Help.com

you are definitely NOT a lost cause.
nobody is, no matter what they’ve done.
i would suggest getting some help like a counselor or something.
i hope it all works out.
=]

WOW!!!! I thought I had it bad… I’m very sorrrrrrrrrrry for you.

Is this serious??? You think? With all these problems, it sounds like your 140 years old. If not, you need some serious counseling.I think more than anyone on this site can offer.

I think you know the answer, you are just taking the easy way out. You sound like your smart enough to know the problems. Are you strong enough to make the choices necessary to change your situation?

It sounds like you are very depressed and you use drinking to numb yourself or to keep from having to deal with issues.

Have you every had any professional help?

Have you ever had professional help? That is what I meant to say.

I used to feel numb with my depression. so I think I know what you mean. How long have you been drinking?

And seeing you are in a abusive relationship, where you abused as a child?

Antidepressants make you feel numb, no real highs, no real lows. Life is just kinda ho hum:)

Do you want to stop drinking?

Well, it sounds like you have a lot things you need to deal with. You deserve to be happy and healthy. You need to make the decision that you are worth fighting for. Don’t let you life be a numb existence.

Im an addict in recovery 7 years this time round. I swear this NA works. I would have left if it didnt show me how to live and have peace. Im free now and happy. Please cheack out an NA meeting.

You know you are making bad choices, yet you keep making them. Antidepressants seem to level out your emotions, no real highs, no real lows. Did you know alcohol is a depressant? Did you know mixing alcohol and antidepressants can damage your kidneys, liver. Do you know that these organs are vital organs? Do you want a quality life?

You need to dig deep down and find the power to overcome.

I know my Dad goes to AA and it is working for him. He is almost to a year sober. And before that he was relapsing about every 4 months. I think depending on what stage of healing you are on, you will have different perspectives of it. I do not think it is about people showing how they destroyed their lives on alcohol but showing how they have overcome it. To help you learn how you can overcome it before your life is destroyed by it.

AA is about people who want help. You can’t get help until you decide you want it? AA isn’t something you can experience from what you’ve been told i.e.. experiencing a sunrise through someone else”s description is not the same.

You are not destroyed, you feel destroyed. That is something you can change. Working through everything you have been through is painful and hard work, but your come out the other side a stronger, happier and healthier person.
Have you talked openly about what you have been through.

What do you mean?

That sucks. sounds like one more problem that you need to work through. Do you have any one that you trust that you can talk open and honestly to?

I never said AA. I said NA. You dont have a drinking problem, you have a thinking problem. I know, Im you. Just check out a meeting in your area. Find one on NA.org.

The first mistake many make when we come into the NA program, is that we think drugs/drinking are the problem. When we say to the newcomer that drugs are only a symptom of a much deeper problem (addiction), it is hard for them to understand this.

To get a better understanding of addiction, we must look at the disease concept of addiction. From that standpoint, addiction is a disease of attitudes, personality & a general negative outlook that is rooted in fear, insecurity & low self-esteem.

Listen to 30ishinPA, he knows what he is talking about. It is worth a try.

or She knows what she is talking about.

Anonymous wrote:
I do somewhat agree actually.

It’s hard to quit though. I feel like it’s all I have anymore.

That is a sad way to feel. Look deep within yourself. You are still in there hidden under all the pain, alcohol, guilt, fear, anger and all that. You are there, pull yourself out and give yourself a big hug and say I can do this. I can have good life.

you’re not a lost cause whatsoever!!
my dad is an alcoholic and if he was to
simply ask if it was that big of a deal than
that would rip me totally apart.Considering the
fact that he’s not only screwing up his life but everyone
around him also. Alcoholism is like poison in water it kills
all that is alive and leaves nothing. i suggest to u that u try
going to AA meetings they do work!! my dad would get sober for a while
and relapse,but if u have the will power stick with it.

_i wish u the best =]
if u ever wanna talk i’ll be here.

Anonymous wrote:
My life is over with. I may as well face it.

Why do you say that?

ur life will never be over even when u stop living
because ur life has been innertwined with others….changing
their lives forever. Even when it seems you’ve reached ur
end u havent. There will be a tomorrow & it truly does get
better, but u have to do ur part in making it better.
If this world just gave up where would we be?? Even people
who dont know u, depend on u for the fact that ur life changes
us all. Dont give up.

First of all, you know you have a problem and you do want to fix it, or you wouldn’t have put it out here like this. Second, you said you don’t like drinking when others are around, but you like drinking. I understand you; you are an artist, and being alone feels good. So if you can’t bring yourself to be with other people, be with art. Take up your painting again. Write a song. Express what you have been feeling in your artwork and put it out for all to see. And by “for all to see”, I mean publish, get out a demo, bring your painting to a fair, and you can do it all anonomously. Demand will come and give you something to do besides drink. And, by the way, you should get used to drinking around others. They can help stop you when you go overboard.

Your dad reminds me of my Dad. My dad as I mentioned before is an alcoholic and he also has diabetes. He did have a second family also. But his second family did not work out either and now he lives alone. But he is sober and happy and that is what counts.

I just listen to a church service about how helping others helps us helps ourselves. When you give to others it makes you feel better about yourself. Is there anything thing that you can do for others. Volunteer someone where. Somewhere that will give you a inner satisfaction of knowing you helped.

It is a great way to bring up your spirits.

babacup is right. Volunteering is good. But it may be best for you to stay away from things that have direct contact with the people you are helping, such as the homeless. Many times seeing how badly others’ lives have ended up only make you feel worse. However, if you are volunteering with something with fortunate people, like selling tickets or something, have as much contact as possible. It may sound silly, but if you talk with people whose lives are going well, soon you’ll be one of them. I know this for a fact.

BringMe2Life wrote:
you’re not a lost cause whatsoever!!
my dad is an alcoholic and if he was to
simply ask if it was that big of a deal than
that would rip me totally apart.Considering the
fact that he’s not only screwing up his life but everyone
around him also. Alcoholism is like poison in water it kills
all that is alive and leaves nothing. i suggest to u that u try
going to AA meetings they do work!! my dad would get sober for a while
and relapse,but if u have the will power stick with it.

_i wish u the best =]
if u ever wanna talk i’ll be here.

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