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I think you need to stay away from this girl. It’s for your own good. She’s playing mind games and keeping you around as a back-up and because she likes the attention. Someone very close to me is going through the same situation and I would advise the same to him. Some girls are just bad news…especially mentally. Find another girl and move on, trust me it’s for the best. She’s doing this now, and believe me it will only get worse. Get her out of your life NOW! Chin-up and stay positive!

I agree with dizzydaisy, but less dramatically so… if she won’t talk to you, you could at least try your best to pay attention to something else, get out of the quicksand of obsessing about her. For the sake of your health and happiness.

I dont agree at all. I think she talks to u because she likes you. she wants a good guy like u in her life but not romanticly and thats what you want. You just want something else then her from the relationship. all girls get wrapped up in the guy they like. Isnt that ok? shouldnt she? you two are only friends so why have these expectations on her??? change your ideas on this or walk away.

yeah shes your friend. and why are u people calling this girl bad??? what if shes some 12 yr old kid? who cares, shes someone his heart likes in some way and your calling her bad. Im soooo sure she is good and thats why he likes her. come on give him more credit then to like some evil bad *****. when people feel bad they think they need to down others - so unhealthy.

It’s not necessarily that she is bad, but their friendship is bad for him right now if he’s just sitting there crying because they aren’t talking.

wow reading my response I can see maybe I over-reacted to this all just a little. But literally today I know someone who is going through hell and back because his so called gf/ex-gf is playing mind games with him. He cries every night because of her, yet he still loves her with all his heart…buys her endless gifts, takes her to the movies continuously. He is in the position of the “boyfriend” you described, and this girl is putting him through the WRINGER… making boys jealous over her and playing mind games, it’s sickening. She has put her best guy friend against this guy and vice versa. I seriously want to kick her butt, but won’t because I just don’t do that.

I’m just telling you to be careful….don’t get too caught up in all the drama, just be friends… By the way this girl I am talking about is only 14. Age isn’t even an issue really. Some girls are just like this and they learn it from the people they grew up with…others, it’s in the genes. Some girls are great people too, but from what you described it just hit too close to home for me.

RIGHT! and Im sorry “anonymously I need help please” I know this sucks! relationships change though and God has a funny way of weeding out the old to plant the new. So hang in and look to whats coming for you. Im sooooo sure it will be great and u will be so happy.

relationships do change and plenty of people will come in and out of your life on a constant basis. Just stay positive and don’t get wrapped up in all of it. But do maybe “get over her” she seems to be hurting you and I think that’s why I reacted the way I did.

I’m so sorry… yeah, I know, it just feels bad when someone seems to ignore us like that out of nowhere. My bet is she’ll be back again… but still it’s not fair to you that she acts like this, then gives you more attention when it’s convenient for her. In some sense, she kind of keeps you on a string by flirting a little in between times, then suddenly not being there? If I were you I think I’d quit pursuing her so much and put a little distance between you, rather than be jerked around by her like this.

sorry mate but trust me when i say she’s playing you man, she really is, she is just doing anything and everything to get what she wants, she may like you but if she has this on off relationship with this other guy, just ask yourself why? is it becos she doesnt’ want a b/f? or is it becos she just wants wants wants?? maybe ask her to go out with you and make sure your’ not boring

Thanks you guys for all the posts! Yeah, she does like me and she is a good girl(19yrs)but yeah I think you guys are right in that she’s playing me. It’s really unfair and I can’t confront her on it. Well, I’m pretty sure if they broke up for good she would look towards me. I can’t be just a friend and have these feelings for her though and wait. Maybe I should tell her that I can’t talk to her anymore because it just hurts too much. but idk. You’re right in that I should distance myself, but that’s easier said than done. Well idk, after next week school ends and I’m not going to be able to see her for 4 months. She is really busy now too, so that’s part of her not getting back to me. I just want to have one more really good time together so she’ll remember me this summer. THANKS again.

I have a real good idea! Date someone, anyone! Just to get out of your head about it and it will make her automaticly just your friend. things change that way. Your a single guy, have some fun and ask a girl out!