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So when a guy says…

Let me give you the direct quote:

“Him:A friend of mine that goes to the school near my place.

Me: Oh! :) And has she asked you out yet?

Him:what?
Him:no.

Me: Well sorry! I want you and no one else can have you so I’m gonna go crazy if I don’t know what’s what.

Him: If that’s the case then yeah, I know her and a few of her friends like me(feelings not returned, worry not.)”

Should I take the “worry not” as a good sign? Me and him aren’t dating (yet…).

I dunno…Maybe I’m over-analysing the confirmation of not returning other girls feelings…

But I dunno!…Whenever I get jealous he always knows and always tells me that he doesn’t like them like that…

Is this just being perfectly honest?- Or is it hinting toward the “No! Don’t get the wrong idea! I like you not them!”

*Sigh*

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Rahat Lokum offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Did you say “I want you and no one else can have you” to a guy who didn’t say anynothing about what he thinks about you? Looks like no chance.

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Emilie T offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

he is popular isn’t he!!!!

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

He’s not popular

And he has said what he thinks about me but never directly- I’ve been talking to him for about 5 months so it’s not like I just met the guy…

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

And when I say indirect I mean, everything that adresses his feelings towards me can be interpreted 2 different ways.

(Oh! And I’ve known him since 2nd grade :P )

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Rahat Lokum offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

But he knows how you feel and he does nothing. What is there to wait.
I think different ways are just illusions but well something can happen and he’ll realise that what he needs is you, after all it can’t be predicted but still chance seems small cause he’s been inactive for so long.

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Um…Last time I asked if he didn’t like me he said, “That may or may not be the case.”

Is that a straight answer to you?

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Rahat Lokum offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Straight? It’s as straight as definitely maybe or almost pregnant. He avoids giving straight answer which probably means he wants to keep you just in case, as a back-up. It’s not honest to do like that.

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

I don’t know…Maybe I’m in denial, but I don’t think he’d play me like that…

He’s not what many girls would consider a traditional hearthrob…
(Though he’s possibly everything I’ve ever wanted…)

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

And also he said once that I could do a lot better [than him].

Or was that the first flat-out rejection he every gave me?

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Sai_Pie offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
Chicago, IL, US | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

ever*

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~lilies~ offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 621 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Maybe it is much better if you lessen the attention you are giving him. A guy whose feelings are intense about you would like to let you know clearly about things. And not letting you read between the lines.

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Rahat Lokum offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

I guess that’s just what he wanted, he didn’t say yes or no so that you could have doubts but hope too.
I think you should find a better person for yourself, someone who’ll treat you right and care about your feelings.

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NotoriousKYA offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 2 minutes after post)

He seems to be not so sure about you… which leads me to think that maybe you should find out on your own. Play with him a bit (mind games: wait for him to call, talk to him about other guys or make him jealous, or even drop some suggestive hints of your owN) get him all ralled up… if he makes a move then your golden but if not then make a move if your comfortable..(be like hey, do you want to go out with me sometime, maybe to a movie. and if he asks if its a date be like HECK YES! guys eat up confidence like steak and potatos! THEY LOVE IT) maybe he’s waiting for you to make the move because he’s afraid to . But once those two options are up i guess your left with a friend.. which isnt all too bad either.. i prefer friendships with people i like over relationships ANY DAY! relationships put way too much pressure on people to like each other… friends dont have to like each other but they do anyway? lol.. its funny… how love works. But anyway… Don’t waste your time if he dosen’t want a relationship.. and don’t feel bad! Theres plenty of time to make him fall in love with you and meanwhile you could be still on the market and stumble upon another stud of your dreams along the way!!! Lol. Not winning over one guy dosent mean your not attractive or a likeable person.. it just means that he’s a scardy cat kid still who dosent know what he wants and is waiting for a supermodel to sweep him off his feet (which isnt gonna happen) and you have to wait till he realises that. Men are so childish sometimes… gotta love em.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (14 hours, 26 minutes after post)

it’s a negro

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