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as i have previously posted; my mom just got dumped by her boyfriend. He broke up with her for a previous woman. Apparently this woman is really mean and controlling, but he was with her for six years and just can’t seem to get away from her. Now, my mom’s point is that most relationships that you see have a woman that is a controlling, mean, freak. She brought up a couple of our friends, and i have to say, at times the women in these relationships can be very mean to their significant other. But, i disagree with my mom when she says that in order to have a man stay with you, you have to become this terrible being to him. I do believe that at times you need to forcefully talk your man into what you want, but that doing this too much (controlling his whole life) will eventually push him away and make him resent you. I feel that the relationship needs something to stand on when things begin to fall apart and that is love, and you can only push him so far. My question is, am i wearing blinders? Am i looking at this in an optimistic light instead of reality? Is this the thought of a wisened woman or just a cold scorned heart? There has got to be some level of balance between the two. When you answer, please, look at the relationships around you and not just with your heart and how you feel the world is supposed to work.

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Tragically_Misled91 offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Controlling your man is not a good thing. Both parties involved should have equal freedom with each other. Love is a much better foundation for a relationship and thats a fact. I understand that you have to be able to put your foot down on some things so that you yourself do not get used but thats no reason to trample out there self worth. I agree with you you can only push a man so far before he resents and ultimately hates you.

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MalusViscus offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Neither Men nor Women are things to be controlled. People have freedom of will and shouldnt be controlled in any way.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Yeah.. iv seen women almost being the dominant one ion a relationship. Some times it just due to a stong personality. However.. its true. women shudnt be controlling but stong to get a point across for example.. but not to a sharp degree. A relationship should be balanced and lobing from both people. They should be a working unit n order to continue being together. Looking around at relationships today, we are seeing lots of breakups and divorces. Why? Its because people have lost repect for eachother and arguements are started over petty things!

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op_seed_e offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Don’t confuse bipolar with controlling. Controlling is selfish and bipolar is a disorder. Some people are so stupid that they do need to be told constantly what to do. But some are willing to learn or attempt to educate them selves and other people. Ultimatly screaming commands isn’t neccesary unless you have unobidient children that won’t listen.

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