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when someone you care about betrays you, how do you

get past all the pain and hurt and move on when you are left with so many unanswered questions and what ifs that will probably never be answered, but that are constantly on your mind? Can you get past something when there are unanswered questions? Any help or words of wisdom are greatly appreciated

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courtybubble offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 267 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

you kick them in the face. twice.hard.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (25 minutes after post)

You know you are better than them and move on.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

If you can still make contact with that person, ASK.

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2 months ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

Write…write down your worries and fears…write down the way you wish it were…write down what you think the person would say…Get it out and work through it. Is this a person that is close to you?

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Anonymous #
2 months ago (4 hours, 35 minutes after post)

They were really close to me. not any more though because of things that happened. have asked but won’t give me answers and contact with this person has been cut off. How do I get these questions out of my head and move on without knowing why these things were done?

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fantasy offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Quezon, 47, PH | 2 months ago (5 hours, 21 minutes after post)

the thing that hurts the most is not knowing the reasons why… i believe you should ask his/her reason… and if that person you cared about couldn’t give you a valid reason at all… you can start asking why the hell did he/she did such thing that could hurt you… and what you are to him/her… i know it is not easy asking these things… but if you want peace of mind… there’s no other way to attain it…
in this life, we have to take chances…

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2 months ago (13 hours, 37 minutes after post)

It may have boiled down to pure selfishness or insecurity…consider their state of mind and how they betray others that you are aware of. You can’t take this betrayal as a flaw in your character, do not internalize this and let it fester and cause you to lose trust in others…

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