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you should step in just so she knows you hear her.

If I step in I would probably try to calm her down…she’s not normal, a bit neurotic.

Let them be. If it is safe to go out for a walk, do. If you feel she is in danger call the police. I’m sorry they are arguing in front of you. I know how scary it can be. Getting in the middle is not the answer…maybe later in the week talk to each separately about how it makes you feel.

Please don’t take it personally. They are the ones with the problems. They’ll work it out. If violence is involved go to a neighbor’s and ask for help. Sometimes when people argue, alot of things are said and done out of the heat of the moment. I wouldn’t want you to get hurt.

My dad won’t do anything, I admire him for having a lot of patience and negotiation skills, both of them he is trying to employ right now. She’s moving out though, she’s packing all her stuff in her car so I might not have a chance. And yeah, it is pretty scary. I should be used to it, because there are always fights between them (and earlier in life between him and my mom), but this is one is just pretty scary because she’s so unpredictable.

run out & tell her to stay!

Ugh…she’s suicidal.

Man…I’m sorry you have to witness this…she really needs to see a doctor and talk to a counselor. I’m sure this will blow over tonight, but convincing your dad to insist she get professional help tomorrow is all you can do. It makes me so upset that they won’t do such things when you are not around…

She is seeing professional help, she has been. In the past it has always blown over, but now I’m not so sure. She’s trying to drag me into this too.

Maybe family counseling? As an adult, she should know not to drag a kid into it. If a professional told her, she would have to come up with another tactic.

If your mom is in the same town, can you go over there tonight?

She is in the same town, but I need to stay at my house because if I try to leave, she’ll pull me into the argument. I’m pretending that I am asleep right now.

Good plan…I know it is impossible to sleep with that going on…If you find you need to really talk to someone tomorrow and they can’t bother you, try this hotline http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index… They handle these situations all the time and to get some input from someone who is trained will make it easier on you if it happens again…

Good night…let us know how you are later.

Hi everyone, it’s me, the anon that made this post. Everything is alright. She’s moving out and there’s no more fighting. Thanks everyone for being here for me.

What a relief…
:)

joshkav wrote:
but all they do is say go away we are talkin then they hit each otheror my dad calls her horrible names and my step mom just retaliates by hiting himreally gard so what should i do?

You are not the original poster here…you will see that I left a number for a hotline above. Call them, let them know how you are feeling when this happens. They can advise you. It’s hard when adults don’t act like adults…you really need someone to talk to. If you don’t have an aunt, uncle,or grandparent, certainly call the hotline.