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I’m kind of lost right now.

i’ve asked people that i know and they don’t really have any helpful advice. So there’s this girl that i’ve been hanging out with for a while now, and we’ve gone on a few dates. i really like her and according to my friends she feels the same about me. so my problem comes from her ex boyfriend who is a complete douche bag. There have been multiple times where she’s been over and he calls and they start arguing about **** and it ends up with her crying. Even though that happens she still talks to him. Drives me absolutely insane.

Another thing is that i, for some reason am afraid to start a relationship right now, unless i know for sure that she’s 100% behind it. thats probably stemming from the fact that the past months i had my head messed with by two girls, close friends on top of that. and one happened to be my best friend’s girlfriend. an extremely abridged version: i ended up falling for both of them, (not at the same time mind you) but i thought they had every intention on dating me and i thought that they really wanted a relationship out of what was going on. but they both just blew me off. so my ability to trust someone in a relationship standpoint has been kind of shattered, i just don’t want to end up hurt again. because i don’t like how i became after it happened.

so if you have any advice i’d love to hear it.

Danke,
Luke

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Kalos offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Why does she still talk to her ex? Is she hoping to work things out? Is he? This may not be something you want to rush. How long has it been since they broke up?

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Do you like her alot, because if she likes you back too, then you needn’t be worried about her x.

If you show your conident and don’t care then she might forget about him entirely.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (7 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Kalos wrote:
Why does she still talk to her ex? Is she hoping to work things out? Is he? This may not be something you want to rush. How long has it been since they broke up?

From what i understand she still wants to be friends with him and has no intention of getting back with him. I’m not exactly sure how long they’ve been broken up. and according to a buddy of mine that introduced us to each other, her ex had threatened to commit suicide if she didn’t talk to him, which is just about the lowest trick in the book.

So to answer your question sabb, yeah i like her a lot, my “plan” is to keep on doing stuff with her, dates and whatnot to show her that i’m a better choice than her ex, and that she doesn’t need to deal with his bullshit anymore.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (15 hours, 8 minutes after post)

It might not be a trick. He may do it. Can you get him help?

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