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Hi, I’m 24-year old student and singel mother.

I have a severe problem with accepting my child. I have been raising him for almost 3 month now and I still haven’t got any feelings for him. Most of the time I think about how can I give him up for addoption. I haven’t done that yet, because of my mother, with whom I live with, she has been threaten me with violence. When I was pregnant she was SO happy that I wanted to give him up, but as the time passed by she started to think other ways. In hospital nobody helped me with my problem, they just said… You have carried him 9 month now it’s time to raise him… they kind of ignored the problem. What should I do? Sould I try to raise him as good as I can or give him up for good? Even though the last option means me really violent punishment.

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Longreach, 04, AU | 1 year, 7 months ago (15 minutes after post)

You should seriously think about placing your child in a safer environment, even if it is just temporary foster care for now, until you are fit to make a better judgement. If your mother is violent, and you dont feel you want your child at this time, then the child needs to be out of that household and in safe hands. I feel very sorry for that poor kid. You need to stop thinking of what is good for you, and start thinking of the welfare of the innocent life that has been placed in your hands. Once you have gotten the child to a safe environment, seek some professional counselling and get yourself back on track so that you are able to make clearer decisions. Its not up to your mother.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I would not look for some overwhelming feeling of love. Maybe God put this child in your life to teach you some very big lessons. When the baby crys, dont get mad just think of how baby is in pain from hunger or gas. This is a human life. This child is in your life for a reason and believe me you will have HUGE payoffs! Love is not a feeling, its an action. You can say you dont love baby all you want but it sure does take a hell of a lot of love to do something you dont want to do for the better of someone else.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

i have 3 words

post partum depression

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (1 year after post)

I Totally agree with Mezz.

I have a son. He is now 9 months. I love him to bits. I have a husband and i went through Post partum depression. You however, don’t have any support. i don’t count your violent mother as support.

The best thing you could do for yourself and the baby is to give him to a family who desperately want to have children. Who will love, care and give him all he needs. Every child deserves a loving family. Not every child is lucky enough to get it. But you totally have the chance to give that to him.

I had to go to weekly theropy sessons. We discovered that My mother never really cared for me and my sisters. she was a single mother. She left me to care for my sisters at a very young age, at times we never saw her for days. We lived on peanut buter and tea. Eventually the billss weren’t payed and we got ivicted out out little apartment. We were fostered into a home. It was the best thing that ever happened to me!

The difference between you and me is that, Your child will be lucky enough to skip the cycle of abuse, mind games, and will live in an environment where he is wanted.

Do the right thing. give him to somebody who’ll love him.

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