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I’m very similar, only I am a girl, pretty good-looking, but my insecurity totally messes up any sort of relationship with a guy even before it starts. So I’ve told myself basically, I’m not going to bother getting into any relationships since there is simply no point. Flawed philosophy perhaps, but true love can happen once in a lifetime and it can also pass you by without you knowing….
Anyway I digress. You shouldnt be so insecure….you should be confident in your own self, as I am, but unlike me, you should learn to take a chance, live a little and see what opportunities life can offer you. Because such opportunities are endless when you give them a chance.
just live every second like ur last. thats wahts i do. dont thing about the bad… only the good!! :)))
take a risk once in awhile, dontt be afraisd to ask a girl out or do sumthing crazy u wouldnt usually do
easier said than done…
confidence isnt just bottled up and sold
i take a deep breathe and i go for it….but the whole time i might be talking, my awkwardness and low self-esteem basically paints the town around me
im still lost…
thnx for trying to help tho
Do you have many friends at all? Are you confident in yourself??
i have friends…but lack confidence.
im very nervous around someone i dont allready kno
y be nervous???? theyre not gonna eat u alive
It comes with time. Hang out with your friends and meet new people within that comfortable environment. You’ll soon find out you’re not such a hermit after all. And also, practice does make perfect. They’re all people in the end, humans!
Everyone suffers nerves when meeting new people to some extent but just do your best to think that hey, these people are on MY wavelength, they’re on MY level, and I have got every chance to make them my new friends etc etc. Cheesy as this sounds, try it. You have got to believe that others are not better than you, because they aren’t!!! I bet most people you’re talking to wont even think about that-they’d be far too busy staring into your eyes! lol
I pinched someone else’s advice, fakeemail_200’s off another post-he/she said:
“Being alone by yourself is better than being with someone and being unhappy.
Your problem is not being loved by someone but loving yourself. Being “loved” by another will only be short lived if you are not happy with yourself. Find why you are not happy with yourself and go from there.”
This, I think, is the perfect advice for you.
MikeEngleby77 wrote:
It comes with time. Hang out with your friends and meet new people within that comfortable environment. You’ll soon find out you’re not such a hermit after all. And also, practice does make perfect. They’re all people in the end, humans! Everyone suffers nerves when meeting new people to some extent but just do your best to think that hey, these people are on MY wavelength, they’re on MY level, and I have got every chance to make them my new friends etc etc. Cheesy as this sounds, try it. You have got to believe that others are not better than you, because they aren’t!!! I bet most people you’re talking to wont even think about that-they’d be far too busy staring into your eyes! lolI pinched someone else’s advice, fakeemail_200’s off another post-he/she said:”Being alone by yourself is better than being with someone and being unhappy.Your problem is not being loved by someone but loving yourself. Being “loved” by another will only be short lived if you are not happy with yourself. Find why you are not happy with yourself and go from there.” This, I think, is the perfect advice for you.
MikeEngleby77 wrote:
It comes with time. Hang out with your friends and meet new people within that comfortable environment. You’ll soon find out you’re not such a hermit after all. And also, practice does make perfect. They’re all people in the end, humans! Everyone suffers nerves when meeting new people to some extent but just do your best to think that hey, these people are on MY wavelength, they’re on MY level, and I have got every chance to make them my new friends etc etc. Cheesy as this sounds, try it. You have got to believe that others are not better than you, because they aren’t!!! I bet most people you’re talking to wont even think about that-they’d be far too busy staring into your eyes! lolI pinched someone else’s advice, fakeemail_200’s off another post-he/she said:”Being alone by yourself is better than being with someone and being unhappy.Your problem is not being loved by someone but loving yourself. Being “loved” by another will only be short lived if you are not happy with yourself. Find why you are not happy with yourself and go from there.” This, I think, is the perfect advice for you.
thnx…that somewat helped actually…
but how would i restructure my thinking process like that?
wat is the actual way of doin so
ooh so good that you quoted me twice! I like it.
Well, let me think….You have to looka t yourself in the mirror and say, man, I look GOOOOOOOOOD. I swear, I am not kidding, it gives you the biggest boost in the world. When you love yourself, in a confident manner, (NOT an arrogant one), that comes across when meeting new people and they instantly react to that. People want to meet confident, bubbly bright vivacious people, not those down in the dumps with low self esteem. I’m sure it’s something to do with psychology or something in that they want to be like that…..
So basically, you have got to love yourself first by loving who you are and telling yourself that you are BETTER than the person you currently are. When you meet someone new, always smile. People ALWAYS react to a smile. And it instantly helps to break the ice. And off you go, you’re halfway there to being that person you want to be.
ur very insightful…but let me give u an example of wat happen to me last week…
i met this girl once before…i picked her up…we hung out for a while and then we came to my house….i started making out with her..(mind u im very awkward/nervous/ and stuttering the whole time).
after i droped her off….i havent seen her since
BUT im not as bad wen it comes to guys
it seems to be a “lil” easier
but ur advice has helped
thnk u
No probs dude. Don’t care about the girl….in fact, sometimes girls find that sort of thing endearing. It depends on the girl really.
MikeEngleby77 wrote:
No probs dude. Don’t care about the girl….in fact, sometimes girls find that sort of thing endearing. It depends on the girl really.
im feeling better allready ^^
I know I do! It shows the guy actually cares about how he comes across to you. Makes girls feel appreciated I guess.
hey dude….just one more question
this girl wants me to call her…she said she wants to kno if i ever had a crush on her….she used to be my friend…
and the thought of me calling her already has my heart pacing…how could i relax?
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