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I kinda had the same problem. All I did was keep reminding myself of the bad parts of their personality. I permanently tended to put them on a pedestal and think they were perfect in every way. After absolutely ages of getting depressed over him, I eventually started to stop and just reminded myself over and over of all the bad things he had ever done, or all the flaws in his personality and nature.

Maybe that isn’t healthy…I don’t know. But for me, it meant I soon managed to forget him and soon moved on. And I gradually forgot I was ever in love with him.

Thanks blink_pin! Yay, I am actually right for once! heh heh. I hope you manage to get through this ‘pls_forgive_me_love’. Unrequited love sucks and most of us girls know how you feel!

do what ever u can to have fun with out him. sooner or later, u will realise that u dont love him or need him.

Why love someone who “hates” you? Well, my bet is he doesn’t truly hate you, but he wants to end things it seems. Just let him go, let him miss you… stop contacting him, begging, or otherwise telling him how you love him when he says he hates you. Don’t degrade yourself like that… have some pride. It’s his loss. I think Cecilia has a point there… all too often people go through break-ups and they seem to be torturing themselves with only the GOOD thoughts of the ex, not the bad… somehow they don’t think about the bad and convince themselves they still love some person who has been pretty horrible to them in reality. The truth is it’s not working out, and there’s no use clinging to someone who doesn’t want you. You deserve better than that, and you will eventually find it… but first work on letting go of this person, and do remember the reasons it’s not working out and that he’s just not caring as much as he should. It’s hard, it hurts, but let time pass…you know the routine, keep busy and don’t dwell on him. Write in a journal about your feelings when you need to, but then stop thinking and keep busy with other things. Don’t contact him… don’t give in. Time will heal and you will move on to something better than all this pain you’ve had with a relationship that just wasn’t working like it should.

i have a massive freaking headache.

You’re not gonna believe this,
but Nothing is Eternal or Everlasting.
Time will heal you anyways.

As soon as you find someone else you will forget him - although I think most people have a soft spot for their first date.;)

It’s OK… you need time to mourn this loss and work through some feelings… but it’s a great opportunity for self-growth too. When the time is right you’ll open up to meeting some new people again, but no need to pressure yourself.

The anger is good, it really does help us to move past things sometimes…. that’s right, because you do deserve better than this!!!

*hugs* to you… you seem like such a sweet person!!! I wish you happier days ahead!!! (They will come!!)

Often relationships just end - sometimes for only oneside of the partnership. A bit like, try it for a month and if your not happy, bring it back. It takes time to know if a person is right for you. When someone asks you out, they like you on the surface. That is all they have to judge you on. They like your smile, your friendly, you have not told them to get lost and you seem to like them too.
Then after a while, you have a bit of background to work on. You may not like the way he kisses, but so what he’s a guy and he’s with you. He may not like the way you smile at everyone and don’t make him feel as special as he would like. Just examples. You both try to over come these problems and say nothing - you love each other don’t you? It is too early yet to know. You still have parts of each others lives and personality to discover. It usually takes about a year - ask friends who have had x’s - I presume this is your boyfriend and not your husband - and they will tell you that some of there relationships lasted about a year or two.
By this time you know if your partner is the one for you for the rest of your life.
He knew you loved him more than he found he loved you.
Be glad he let you go, be glad he is searching for the happiness he needs and wants.
Be glad to have the opportunity to find someone who loves you for more than a year.
It is not easy to say why you don’t love someone anymore. One day you feel you need to break off. Often it is impossible to tell the other if you don’t know why yourself.
You have as whole new page to write on here, so start with some simple scribbling and work your way up to the real thing. Best wishes.