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Not a problem, just something that gets to me.

I feel like I’m being forced to grow up.
I’m already paying my own bills including my loans and tuition bill.
I have to drop out of college because my parents can’t help me pay, and God knows I can’t afford it, even with my scholarships.
All my friends have Mommy and Daddy to help them.
And they don’t understand why my parents can’t. They even sometimes call them bad parents. But it’s not my parents’ fault. They just aren’t rich like the people up here.

My friends all think I’m weird because I love Disney movies. They can’t understand why I’m so immature.
I can’t understand why they want to grow up.
I would give anything to curl up in Mommy’s and Daddy’s lap like I used to.
It really isn’t fair.
All my friends are planning their summers. Going to Europe and South America and getting beach houses to party.
While I’m back home. Working 2 jobs. With no day off so that maybe in a year or 2 I can return to college so I don’t end up in my parents’ position.
But at the same time..
My parents are happy. They have 2 daughters who love them to no end. They both have significant others who love them. Even with no money, we’re happy.
But going to school and seeing everyone living off their parents still…
I’m jealous.

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cdog2160 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
US | 1 year, 6 months ago (24 minutes after post)

You have a good attidute, don’t let other’s materialistic benefits take that away from you. Everyone who wants to go to college goes, you aren’t limited any more than what you let limit you. It’s true, your parent’s finacial situation is out of their hands, and it is a good chance for you if you go to college to fix that problem in your family. Don’t let words get to you, follow what you believe in and don’t settle for what others say. Only you can change your fate.

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US | 1 year, 6 months ago (26 minutes after post)

With that said I’m not saying toughen up and live with it, I’m saying it can only change if you let yourself believe it can. It might take time, and patience, endurance and courage, but with time things will only get better. Keep trying and you never know what you might stumble across that can change the tides in your favor, don’t let your circumstances limit you, let them challenge your perceptions of the world and the reality of your circumstances.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (10 hours, 6 minutes after post)

the most successful people in the world are the ones who are self-reliant. your struggles now will pay off huge down the line. its hard, but you’re learning more about real life than you friends.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

You have touched the secret that it will take your friends years to understand. It isn’t about money, it isn’t about “ability to help” it’s about love and closeness and family. All will be well and right for you Dots, maybe not as fast as your buddies but it will be well and right my friend.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (8 months, 1 week after post)

I go to grad school with my parents’ money. My father worked hard all his life and died quietly with a lot of saving. I hate it when people around me think I am just a spoiled brat. I studied harder than anyone I know up until my father became mentally ill when I was in junior year in highschool. My mother left me alone with my father. I had to take care of him and myself on my own and continue my study, it eventually influenced my mental condition. Now my father died, I don’t have to take care of him, and I have his saving to pay my tuition but I still have to struggle with my mental condition as I study. I don’t tell around this because I don’t want to sound like I want pity, but it hurts when everyone around me thinks I am just an Asian rich kid. Don’t be jealous of others, life is not that easy for anyone.

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