Love help: I didn’t realize it would end so quickly. - Help.com

Oh, I’m sort of sorry for this. I say sort of because I think you had a close shave. You don’t see her that much and I reckon she is drinking more than you think. She also seems to like to party and her selfworth goes out of the window everytime. You don’t need a person like this in your life not just now, but for ever. Imagine that, her forever. I see a warm glow come on your laptop, so stop it! The only warm glow you will get here is her full of alcohol and causing you grief. You can pick her up 20 times - you probably already have. You can pick her up 50 times, but that’s just because you feel you have to. You can pick her up 100 times and you will resent her, should I go on.
You were so different too. There seemed to be nothing in it, but her looks and ’sweetness.’ This does not make a relationship you can rely on for the rest of your life. She has already made you this unhappy at a time when you need support. You both do. Get your head into your books, study hard and just be glad when it is all through and you passed with flying colours, you didn’t have her to hinder your every turn.
I would ignore if she calls and get on with what will eventually shape your future. It is what she wanted and you love her enough to let her go. A better person can let a loved one go if it makes them happy.
I am sorry about this, but I think you already knew it wasn’t going to work long term.

Dude, you did the right thing. She is definitely an alcoholic, whether or not you want to believe it, and no-one wants to be in a relationship where one person loves something more than the other person in the relationship.

I think you like her a lot but not in love with her .

P.S: Don’t take my reply as criticism .

I feel for you. You sound like you know what you’re doing….In fact you sound like my ‘boyfriend.’ Well done I suppose.

Patric1 - I started reading your post and immediately thought to myself “no, you don’t understand,” but I must admit that after thinking about it and coming back here and reading it again I know that part of you say is right. I should not settle for this part of her personality.
When we first started seeing each other, everything was great and there absolutely no problems. In fact, I did not even see her drink for the first time until we had been together for three months (I may be repeating myself here from a previous post). After that night I told her that if this is the way she is with alcohol I cannot possibly continue to see her no matter how much it will hurt me because it will only hurt more later. Well here I am, exactly how I said I would be so many months ago. You’re completely right, I knew this would happen. At first I told her how I felt and then I basically settled with the way she was which was definitely the wrong choice. Sometimes we just want to ignore the bad things…

nextstar - I believe it was love. The first three months were awesome. The weeks following were still great. But the last few weeks have had their ups and their downs. Everything seemed great between us - friends, family and fun - everything except for some of her social outings.

Regardless, I think its definitely for the better how things have ended up. True it could have been at a better time, maybe after final exams (like I said earlier) but it’s really not a big deal. The only thing now that I have to deal with that’s going to be a first time for me is all my friends who knew her and will ask me about her. I haven’t told any friends who I see here in school because I don’t want to have to deal with seeing anyone who might say something. I know they will only be words of encouragement but I want to try and stay clear of thinking about this for a while.

Thanks guys. All four of you - what you’ve said helps.

When you stated: “She is a good kid.”

You are clearly not on the same level.

Enough said.

Gut feelings are usually right. All ex’s are ex’s for a reason otherwise they would be presents…

When someone stops to think for long enough, they can find the answers were there all the time. Unfortunately, we are not good at doing this, us humans, and that is why we fall victims of all sorts of things. I understand when you say ’sometimes we just ignore the bad ones.’ It doesn’t help our lives improve and the sooner we realise this, the better our lives will become. Have a happy future and study well!

Thank you for your help Patric1.
I’m definitely doing better now, I’ve thought about it a lot and I understand where things fell apart (namely from the beginning). I think I was just too quick to step into it, and too reluctant to let go of something that seemed like it could be so good. In retrospect I knew there would be problems which would eventually lead to the downfall of the relationship, but I chose to ignore them.
Thank you again.