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My dad is bullying me again.

yesterday we went to buy something. I was gonna pay with my own money and both my parents said it was okay. The thing I wanted to buy was sold out and today my dad started messing with my moms head and now I can’t buy it anymore for no reason. I mean it’s my money, I worked for it, I’ve been saving for as long a I can remember. It’s a GAMECOMPUTER. What’s wrong with a gamecomputer?
It’s not only that though. my dad just called me names again and he hit me.
I’m just so sick of it. I don’t think it’s healthy to keep in living here. I just wanna get out. It’s bringing me down, it even makes me wanna hurt myself or someone. I have no selfconfdence left, no happyness and now I can’t even spend MY money. Am I just being pothetic or am I right and am I suppost to leave this place?

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hawkinsjr offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 minutes after post)

It’s a bit normal for a parent to disagree on what you want to buy, especially if you are still living with them. But physical and emotional torment like hitting or calling names, in a non-playful way, is not normal and not healthy. Does he give you reason for the torment?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Tell the police if he hits you.

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¿ThatKid? offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 minutes after post)

hawkinsjr wrote:
It’s a bit normal for a parent to disagree on what you want to buy, especially if you are still living with them. But physical and emotional torment like hitting or calling names, in a non-playful way, is not normal and not healthy. Does he give you reason for the torment?

nope

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (4 minutes after post)

apple148 wrote:
Tell the police if he hits you.

i’m allready in the system
i looked 4 help and it didn’t help at all

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

How old are you?
How does he treat your mom?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

did you try to talk to him about it and he got violent?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 minutes after post)

apple148 wrote:
How old are you? How does he treat your mom?

i’m 15 nd he’s just meen to my mom

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
did you try to talk to him about it and he got violent?

i didn’t do anything

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hawkinsjr offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

You need to speak with him, if things continue after that, something else must be done

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (8 minutes after post)

hawkinsjr wrote:
You need to speak with him, if things continue after that, something else must be done

we went to therapie
that didn’t help

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hawkinsjr offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Did you notify police about the abusive situation?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (10 minutes after post)

why doesn’t yur mom do something to stop him?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (11 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
why doesn’t yur mom do something to stop him?

oww she does try
but sometimes she gets so tired of it that she feels like the victim and starts blaming me 4 the fights

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (12 minutes after post)

hawkinsjr wrote:
Did you notify police about the abusive situation?

i told some kind of i don’t know agentcy that helps kids and they’re probably in some way connected to the police

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

but you mom doesn’t abuse you right?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Okay well.. Call the police! It’s way more helpful than hotlines!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (15 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
but you mom doesn’t abuse you right?

no she doesn’t

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (16 minutes after post)

hawkinsjr wrote:
Okay well.. Call the police! It’s way more helpful than hotlines!!

i’m not shure if i rlly should do that since i’ve got no evidence and my dad will deny everything

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (16 minutes after post)

well talk to her. open up and show her how bad you feel. if she loves you and is responsible she will undoutedly do something to prebent this from happening. did you try that?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (16 minutes after post)

omg tell ur mom its the best thing 2 do. it can be proven. hes not stronger or bigger than u… u have alot of true detailed storys 2 tell .. do u have hit marks or bruises

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (17 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
well talk to her. open up and show her how bad you feel. if she loves you and is responsible she will undoutedly do something to prebent this from happening. did you try that?

yea ofcoarse i tried that

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (17 minutes after post)

well what did she say?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (17 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
well what did she say?

she thinks it sux but she doesn’t know what to do

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (18 minutes after post)

whyley_yosh_yea wrote:
omg tell ur mom its the best thing 2 do. it can be proven. hes not stronger or bigger than u… u have alot of true detailed storys 2 tell .. do u have hit marks or bruises

he is way stronger(pro boxer strong) and sometimes i have bruises but not now

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (21 minutes after post)

i know it can’t be proven and your dad will deny it, but police isn’t so oblivious. ifyou claim such a thing they will offer some protection, especially if you are not an adult yet

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (22 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
i know it can’t be proven and your dad will deny it, but police isn’t so oblivious. ifyou claim such a thing they will offer some protection, especially if you are not an adult yet

still i don’t want to ut my dad in yale since he isn’t about to beat me to death but he’s just bruising a little and anoying me

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (23 minutes after post)

jale yale i don’t know and ut = put

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (27 minutes after post)

so at times he is affectionate with you? i mean does he behave like a dad in general?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (30 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
so at times he is affectionate with you? i mean does he behave like a dad in general?

no he behaves like a big brother or just some kid at skool not ever a dad
he can be nice asa friend but he’s not ever a dad to me

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (34 minutes after post)

do you have a relative that is responsible and caring? like a grandpa or grandma or uncle? maybeyou could move there for a while so he can appreciate you whenyou are gone

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (35 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
do you have a relative that is responsible and caring? like a grandpa or grandma or uncle? maybeyou could move there for a while so he can appreciate you whenyou are gone

i have no one
my familly doesn’t get it and they’re just meen and anoying to everyone

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (38 minutes after post)

you got any brothers/sisters or isitjust you, your mom and dad?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (40 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
you got any brothers/sisters or isitjust you, your mom and dad?

i’m an only child

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (46 minutes after post)

look i know that you must feel horrible , but just hold on there for 3 more years and then you’ll do whatever the hell you want, youll be free. i know it seems a lot of time but it’s not so long as it seems

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (49 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
look i know that you must feel horrible , but just hold on there for 3 more years and then you’ll do whatever the hell you want, youll be free. i know it seems a lot of time but it’s not so long as it seems

i have been wantng to get out of here since i was six
it’s not just the next 3 years that do it
it’s not healthy cuz it has been going on 4 so long í just keep slipping into heavyer depressions

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (50 minutes after post)

do you have a best friend you can talk to when you feel bad?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (54 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
do you have a best friend you can talk to when you feel bad?

yea sometimes
he’s in truble too so he can’t talk all the time

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (57 minutes after post)

he’s in the same situation you are?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour after post)

cmoxino wrote:
he’s in the same situation you are?

no totally different
he doesn’t understand what i’m talking about most of the time

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

hey here’s my msn: i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>. im the same age you are, we can talk whenever you feel ******. okay darling?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

cmoxinou (at hotmail dot com)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

cmoxino wrote:
cmoxinou (at hotmail dot com)

thanx

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THE INTERNET offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (4 hours, 24 minutes after post)

try to get it on film or sound recordings next time.
make yourself a “nanny cam” and leave where he attempts to hurt you. show it to the police.
if it is impossible in your postion contact them and try anyway. they usually side with the kid

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