girl help: If I think something when Im around a guy/girl would what I be thinking show by my body language and behaviour? - Help.com

how do u mean not in the situation naturally?

ahh had a look, hard to keep focus but thanks, a lot of information!

mas1s wrote:
What is coming across is that you feel vunerable when you are out in public - you probably have many reasons for this but you really need to address your self-confidence with people you dont know. There are body language techniques you could learn that would deter people you dont want near you from approaching you.

I do have the problem of being approached and stalked by people i don’t know

they pick on me which does upset me a lot. im a quiet non threatening person and they use that to their advantage.

i do not to toughin myself up a lot and tell these guys to f*** off

i do need to* -spellin is bad cos late

thats wat my counsellor said, she wants me to think about my future.

spiratec9 wrote:

spiritedsoul wrote:
they pick on me which does upset me a lot. im a quiet non threatening person and they use that to their advantage.

its your eyes….you have bedroom eyes….very appealing.
If you wish counteract the bedroom eye effect try to open them more.
Not all the time but when you are having a problem with a “dingbat” guy.

spiratec, trust me, i do not give bedroom eyes. all i do is look at them look i do with everyone else and they get the wrong idea.

mas1s wrote:
It’s quite possible that before your diagnosis you were confused about what was the matter - that’s totally normal. Now you should take a bit of time to let the diagnosis and its implications sink in - whilst ckecking out the best way to manage things. Your next task - should you set it for yourself, is to incorporate all of the factors you are aware of now into a future. You know what you are working with and against now. Some people never get to realise what brick wall is stopping them from moving forward - you have been given the opportunity to smash the wall down and adapt your life in such a way that you can be happy.

You have all of the tools now - you just have to work out how to use them.

very true. if i can of course, i do feel tempted to sue my school cos of the bad bullying i got, and also it was worse because i behaved different, so if i was diagnosed more cudve been done to understand myself and how to deal with these sort of situations. i was just a kid and under the schools RESPONSIBILITY but they FAILED to help me. i talked to my brother and he said i shud move on, yes i want to do that, but how many others kids would be in the similar situation? also i feel that part of my life was badly damaged.

but to the future part, i guess ur right my wall has been broken down. i do want to go to classes near where i live where people have the same condition as me where i can get the right support because i want to know how to socialise better.

I think also a great reason i haven;t connect with guys is because through my young age i was told they;re all the same with these sort of stereotypes and my autism stopped me also from having the capability to see them as individuals, autimatically assuming they thought the same way and not thought otherwise.

Michael Leibman wrote:
What one is feeling seems to have a bigger impact than what one is thinking, but every little thing can make a difference. Or not, because we all notice different things that are important to us.

I guess but theres always that debate, isn;t there? does emotion cause our thoughts or do our thoughts cause emotion? scientists have been researching this but don;t think no proper explantion to this has been found. i guess it could be like the chicken and egg theory in a way.