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Have you tried making a planner where you write the stuff needed to be done?

Try thinking if you are not going to do this and that today, then nothing will happen even after ten years. And your health and other important part of you will suffer.

ACT now.

It sounds like you may be a little depressed. Maybe you should visit your GP and see if you can get to the root of the problem, then things should start to fall back into place again.

Good luck.

10% done is still more than what you had done before. Do as lilies advised and make a daily planner, if things still go wrong then you have to worry about why you don’t have the motivation to make things happen and should see help.

I feel like my mind is on vacation mode and I need to turn it off to work mode.

And it’s stressing me out more than usual because I have anxiety that makes me not do easy tasks that normal people can do. It’s driving me crazy.

Hmmm. Tough call, try having someone around for a day or so to pish you to work(not too hard!!) and get yourself into a routine to do so. Once you’ve got a routine it should be easy to stick by it.

I have someone around everyday that won’t shut up about it. It doesn’t help, just makes me feel more in a rut.

There is always a vacation mode and work mode and all others. Having those is really good as long as you get to have other stuff done.

Your planner would tell you which part of the week you are going to rest and have time to play.

Give yourself some rewards. Say if you finish doing something, you’d get to have an ice cream or a nice movie.

acupuncture

pachycephalasaurus wrote:
acupuncture

really? what would they be working on? I’ve never heard of this as a cure for procrastination. Are you serious?

Why would that work?

(a moment of hope that something other than sheer will-power could work … )

So what is the source of the fear? It sounds like a fear problem to me. Procrastination is a form of anxiety. It’s like paralysis because of fear.

tell us more …

Tiredness. Anxiety. Rather doing something else.

tell us more about the fear angle, nainachick!

oh, you meant me. I thought you wanted more info from our procrastinator. What else would you like to know?

God, that sounded egotistical, like I have all the answers. Bleck

Nah, I didn’t take it that way! :)
I’ve never thought of it as being fear that makes me procrastinate. Please expound on this idea.

During my worst times of procrastination, I fear failing so badly. If I put everything off, I couldn’t fail. But the anxiety that produced was so awful. I thought I feared success as well, but it turns out, my fear of success was just a fear of failing from a greater height.
So I decided to stay ’stuck’ instead. Can’t fail if I don’t do anything.
In reality, the failure was simply dragged out over a period of years rather than some spectacular screw up in a short period of time.
I’ve always dreaded doing the ‘wrong’ thing. I’m a perfectionist by nature. If I can’t do it ‘perfectly’ I didn’t want to do it at all. My fear of this kept me paralysed.
Does any of this ring true for you, anon?

No, not really, sorry. :(

sorry I could’t help!

How did you get over it, nainachick?

I’m going through the same thing…
I’ve got exams coming up right now and I feel like I can’t go through with them.
I skipped classes and procrastinated for the entire year and now I have 17 days and 5 exams.
I do it all the time

I know it comes from low self esteem
It can come from feeling depressed
I fear failure
I convince myself that it’s ok to leave it until later - then panic

There are so many reasons for procrastinating - if it’s really getting in the way of your life maybe you need to see a counsellor or talk to someone more professional about it?
It all depends on the person I think - some people procrastinate because they don’t really want to do the task, other’s are scared of not doing it to perfection…

Anonymous wrote:
No, not really, sorry. :(

It’s surprising that this doesn’t ring a bell with you, Anon …

This is a really good page about procrastination I just found:

http://www.filosoficas.unam.mx/~morad…

really acupunture takes the edge off. I can’t afford it right now, but if you can it can probaly help even with procrastination.

I wonder how that works, for that?

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling badly. I am feeling very overwhelmed myself. UGH

I don’t know what to do….nothing seems to be going my way and I cannot get out of this funk…